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Ariel Caplan
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Backend Developer at Cloudinary, building digital asset management solutions at scale. Learning to optimize peopleware (myself and others) through autonomy, empowerment, and learning.

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RailsConf 2019 - Keynote: The Stories We Tell Our Children by Ariel Caplan



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stories stories aren't just collections of events thrown together in some order probably chronological. Stories are messages feelings ideas, which happened to be conveyed in the form of a narrative coming together to form a holistic immersive experience. stories play a crucial foundational role in society They're how we convey who we are what we do and why we do it what we believe in. Nowhere, is this more true than in stories for children? Stories are one of the major ways. We teach a child how the world Works. What does society expect from them what the writing wrong look like?

Here's one particularly blatant example. of messages in a book In the story for children, it's come from the book Madeline describes these twelve little girls in two straight lines taking their daily stroll around the town and it says they smiled at the good and frowned at the bad. There are a lot of assumptions here about what good and bad look like good is depicted as a person of noble birth wealthy parading around a finally decorated seed. Bad is a thief short and ugly

long nose and jutting Chin grass intended to it to look not conventionally attractive clothes running away from police officer. Some of the assumptions here. We probably agree with like we probably don't want to teach kids to seal. You want to teach them that it's a bad thing. But I think we would question a lot of the implicit messages on these Pages messages about the connection of of morality 2/12 or to attractiveness or things like that. We have to be really careful. What are the stories that were one of the messages that were passing on in the

stories that we tell? Okay, so why is all this relevant to us here today will, 2019. Well, I think that we stand at a very interesting juncture in the history of programming. We have a constant influx of New Prague programmers into our community people of all ages and backgrounds. We need to think about what are the stories that were telling them. What are the messages? What are the expectations that we're setting for them about how Society works and how it's going to treat them? It's not that the programming community in general. It's also the Ruby

community and even more narrowly the real community. What are the stories were telling our children? Before we start to answer that question though. I'd like to take a step back take some time to think about the relationship between literature and the society which creates it and consumes it. I think that's going to help us understand the gravity of the question and also pointed in the direction of how we can start making things better. now we could talk about English children's literature, which probably the best majority of er are most familiar with but there are

two problems with that problem number one, is that yesterday? I think we had our fill number two is a little more little more serious, which is where Autumn blind to the assumptions that exist within our own our literature and culture. We need to look at other societies and other groups of people. We're much more much more easily able to understand the connections between the way that Society works and its literature. So today we're going to talk about the literature of Israel Now I chose Israel because it's something that's pretty familiar

to me. But that doesn't answer the question of why all of you to be interested in specifically Israeli literature. The truth is though. I think once we know a little bit more about the history of the Hebrew language and of Israel. We're going to see that there are certain important parallels between that Society specifically and the programming community and I think it's actually a very instructive example. The reason for all of that starts with this kid itamar Ben Avi. He lived his childhood at the very end of 19th century. But his story actually starts

about 2,500 years earlier. We're now in the 6th Century before the Common Era. Jews are pretty much living more or less work today. We would you would call the state of Israel and the Babylonians came along they were expanding your Empire. They conquered the area of people ransacked Jerusalem and exiled do use almost entirely the adult population to Babylonia. A few decades later. These were allowed to return if they so chose and a few hundred thousand returned. Although the vast majority did stay where they are there any headlights there? Even those who went back to it to rebuild Israel

didn't last forever. The long Came As Romans a few centuries later. We're now in the year 70 in the Common Era the Romans came along again killed a bunch of people ransacked Jerusalem destroyed the temple took the fact that if you can see here in this released from the Arch of Titus, which is still up and running today. And they took a lot of Jews off to room card am off to serve as slaves and gladiators. The truth is building a life a living hell for everyone who remains also and Soju, sorry to scatter fleeing persecution and difficult lives where they

were and so someone else to join the existing communities in Persia and sunlight on South towards Egypt and from there on to various areas of North Africa. So what happens when you take people out of their contacts put them somewhere else in the world? Going to happen while we still have to survive is left make a living. They still have to be able to go to the local Marketplace and exchange flour for eggs. And so what happened is he needed to learn the language and the culture that they were a part of and as Generations past children 10 to learn the language of the culture that

they are part of our own society that they're part of more native leave then the language of their parents and by somewhere around the end of the second century of the Common Era was born the last need if you were speaker. Hebrew became a dead language, it was still use for scholarship poetry communication between communities, but it was not a language you would use to go about your daily business. Eliezer ben-yehuda came in the 19th century and he wanted to say and all that. He's got a whole bunch of things in that regard. He publish the Hebrew language newspaper. He

founded the society which eventually became the Academy of the Hebrew language which to this day mix decisions about syntax grammar new words, things like that. But he also started a much quieter Revolution a revolution at home. So he and his wife and I decided together they were going to raise their son as a first mate if you were speaker in 1700 years. Others followed their we're going to be school to stablish that where Kira was the native language of instruction and to the point that today you have millions of native speakers most and lived in Israel, but

some in other places throughout the world, but right at the beginning of the first Native Hebrew speaker, and those those who came after him in those early years. They were missing a lot of things in their native language. Basically a whole culture had to be created. They needed books everything from children's books novels textbooks. It'll have to be created in this new language. You needed music with Hebrew lyrics poetry there was older poetry but it was a very different style. Then you might see today and so a whole new genre of poetry genres of poetry needed to be

created. You needed entertainment theater eventually movies and television and you needed things for kids to paint on the playground. I grew up in the US singing Jack and Jill London Bridge is Falling Down songs that go back for centuries. And I think I told her I read Shakespeare and saucer. There's been a very very long evolution of English literature. Keeper keeper literature doesn't have that luxury. It had to be created if there was a very brief. A comparatively speaking of about 60 years a tremendous burst of creativity where the culture was

generated from scratch. If we think about professional communities think about medicine medicine has existed since pretty much the dawn of humanity. Doctors are still sworn in with a nose from ancient Greece. They may not do everything right but they've had a lot of time to try things out to evolved to get better. programmer Style That's not the case. Very similar to keep your language culture. We have to create our community very very quickly. How long have there been communities of programmers at

all? How old are languages and Frameworks? It might seem like forever an internet time. But in reality we take a much broader perspective. We are at the very beginning of a revolution at the community. We've created a very different set of media in order to communicate with each other places to ask and answer questions places to arrange to meet up in real life to collaborate on code to learn new skills to hear news, Dawn News. It's the right some of the wrongs our community. The set of tools the set of media looks different but the stakes are very much the same.

In the case of a Hebrew is a very short. Of history that had an outside influence on everything that came afterwards the same is true for our community. That's what we're living right now the stories that we are telling today set the tone for the next thousand thousand thousand years. how to program a community so with that intro What are talking about the literature the first book were going to look at you? Call the tale of five balloons Mazda Bahama shop. We're Ross was for number of decades a preschool teacher. She also

held a master's in education. She was a professor of children's literature related to education. And she also wrote the book that we're about to read. At the time was 1974. She was 64 years old. This was her first of 24 books for children that you wrote to publish about one book per year until she died will answer 90s. I think it's very cool. The total outside that she started the thing which she would become most known at an age 64 when most of us are already thinking about retiring. This is one of the most popular books for children

in Israel. In America a college professor might write an essay question and problem on a test and use your name for character that you have to put names for and they might write you know, Huey Dewey and Louie reference from popular culture. And Israel will not be uncommon to see the names of the kids in this book. I've looked at the ratio between the number of copies sold and the number of households in Israel. If you compare that with my kind of bar for a popular children's book The Cat in the Hat book number of copies sold and the

number of households in America. This book is more than twice as popular as for contacts in order of magnitude of of how how ingrained this book is in two Israeli culture. The Book of Job are coming home with strings which you don't see them but they're attached to balloons. So this is another of wealthy who is one of the five children we see here And she brought balloons for Loki and all of her friends is a different color and to all the children gather balloons up and they go for an adventure. We had the Greenville own. He's having a grand old time

popping a balloon up and down up and down. He tosses it up and it lands on a rose bush. It gets pricked by a thorn. Pop goes the balloon. And of course the way it's very upset and an hour later start speaking to lie directly the narrator will speak to each child and turn and the narrator says don't feel too bad. We'll get you another. Will they continue on their way and they run into the father of one of the children one who had the Red Balloon and one is very happy to see his dad. He said Daddy I want you to blow

up my balloons so big I want to be big like your head. I want to be big like the sun and the father is like, okay, whatever you say kid takes a balloon and starts blowing it up bigger and bigger and bigger and you eventually. So big at pops the narrator says don't feel too bad one soffel. Shall call cousin. This is the end of every balloon. They continue on their way and they see the cat here. She's the cat of belonging to seagull eats who had the purple balloon and see what he wants to

pet her cat and so as she reaches down the cat grabs a balloon out of her hands and let me see the cat starts running around with a balloon popping it rolling with it jumping on it all turned out the cats have claws. And so she scratch with a balloon. pop and the narrator says to seagull eats too bad. That's still so she'll call the loan. This is the end of every balloon. What were three down two to go? Lucy has a blue balloon and alone has has red balloon just for those who are keeping score. Well, let me see the writing on the wall. She knows where this is going. And so she says I'm

not going to let anything happen to my balloon. I'm going to hold it tight. I'm going to protect it and hold it tight the way you might hug a doll the way you might have a parent and she hold it so tight that she pops her own balloon. The narrator says don't feel too bad that still Pho show called alone. This is the end of every balloon. One balloon left the red balloon belonging to a loan. And what happens with this balloon is a little bit different. Great gust of wind comes along and blows it right

out of his hands carried it up into the sky. And as he watches his balloon flying off alone differently. He starts waving and he says shalom shalom bologna Dome. Goodbye. Goodbye. Red balloon. Can all the children join in and they all wave and they say goodbye. Goodbye, red balloon. That's actually the end of the book. In what page? Is he the balloon flying off into the upper atmosphere? The kids are gone. It almost makes you start to think about what are the red

balloons in my life things where I feel like I've lost all control and I feel lost English. It's a really sad book by all accounts and end when I first read this book, it kind of shocked me that this book is as popular as it is, you know kids with backpacks with the kids in this happy since you know, the pop one to look pretty sad actually but it bothered me a lot why why would a book with a sad ending no milk again thousand Alive, by the way to we at the beginning they said we can get you another balloon No One debt.

Why would it become so popular? And ask around I did some research and I think I have what's pretty much accepted as the answer. But first I want to tell you a little bit about myself and why this question matter so much to me. so Fremont anyway, hi. I'm Arielle Kaplan as the as you heard earlier at a m Kaplan on the internet everywhere that it matters. I work as a back-end developer ax soccer club Murray mostly working in Ruby. And I have a lot of stickers by the way. So if you want excuse to come over and

say hi, not that you need one. But if you if you feel that you need one come over I come out. I also run that I'm pretty booked and I have stickers for that as well. So I'll be happy to give you. But for the last four years, I live in Israel picture of me reading this book to my kids. It's exactly the first book that we bought for them. Are the first The First Tee provoked I should say. And it bothered me a lot. So I'm working for an Israeli company. I bought some Israeli co-workers and I'd be able to relate to them. I need to

understand Society but even more importantly I think it's there and part of my job as a parent the way I see it is to help them navigate Society to do that. I have to know how Society works. I have to understand it. I want to see things like this things that pop out of me. They don't make sense. It's it's a challenge but it was an opportunity to discover something to deepen my understanding of the society that I'm living in and I need to have to be a guide a guide to for my children. One last thing before we jump into the answer content warning. I think by now probably all those drivers have

walked in which is good. So we're going to have some discussion and images of War injury and death get real heavy right now people. We're all going to have some discussion of abusive behavior and harassment as well as it's discrimination and racism. So if you woke up this morning and you're just not in the mood to deal with the stuff right now that's totally fine there plenty of exits go out take a deep breath and fresh air grab a drink and and come with the next talk. But if you're ready to keep moving, we will quite literally Soldier on What I talk about is really history

and the goal here is not 2% A comprehensive picture was really history. I don't think when you came here for and that's not what I want to do to you today. The goal here is really understand what the fit me to put you in the head of an Israeli at the time that this book was published. And it work to do that. I met in this book was published in 1974. We need to go back one year 1973 GMC for war you'll see it brought down and other sources that the the Ramadan war or the October War of the goal here is to is to give a view of you feel like respect until going to stick with the Israeli name

DLC for war. October 6th, 1973 Egypt and Syria launched a coordinated attack and invasion of Israel. Is it was highly overconfident at the time for reading free to get into momentarily but was very much caught off guard by the attack just just didn't have enough resources available and wasn't ready for something like this to happen. The time of the attack was also really important as the name of the work suggests that happened on Yom, Kippur Yom Kippur is the holiest day in the Jewish calendar. It's a day when many Jews even those who aren't

the rest of the year all that connected with with the religious observance, but they're in synagogues. They're praying and fasting. Lee not in in in Peak physical condition to go to war. And also of course had an impact on on the way that it was felt by the people to be attacked on that particular day. It also by the way a day. When is the Army gives off a lot of a lot of photos you deleted to go home and be with their communities for the holiday. And so they were just massively understaffed on all the bases at the border. It was a time

until reinforcements arrive when less than 500 Israeli soldiers were we're giving this formidable task offending off the entire invading Egyptian Army. And so as you might imagine it took a lot of fighting to recover from that. It was about a month of fighting the war ended on October 25th. Until basically when the war ended wars were the same nothing much really changed in that sense, but there was a lot of pain suffering death and loss. Very heavy emotional toll on these rallies. Bring on the other side as well. But again, we're focusing right now, and he's really protective.

Part of the reason it was so difficult to double was happening was there was another War 6 years earlier. It was the same basically list of the of competence on on both sides of 6 days. That's all talk and to have a very much more difficult War happen 6 years later. Where the feeling was everything I've done wrong. how the big shock to be Valley system and the country started questioning who know who is responsible have to leave me no point fingers or commissions that were assigned to look into it

eventually the Prime Minister resigned and and there was a call for new elections. but the truth is not a talk about growing up in the big scary toys of Destruction destruction, and it's not to talk about political systems is talk about children and what I really want to do with you if you a sense of what were kids thinking at the time if I like to read a few things that were actually written by children at the time. things that were published in newspapers This is a letter to the editor and it reads as follows. I'm now very sad. I worry for every Soldier. I know the

woman who hasn't heard from her husband since the War Began. They don't know anything. When will there be peace when there was a blackout? I thought this isn't Israel. Why is everything closed so early? Why are there no buses. This isn't Israel. Everyone is so sad. Carpenter Jerusalem. for Bella Carpenter / red balloon gone You can no longer be confident that the daily routine. She was so used to the things I gave her Comfort would still be there even when things got back to normal.

How would she know they would be overturned again at some unexpected time? Here's another. We just have to continue another few years as it is now there is no choice. I believe that every few years. There will be a war like today perhaps the next generation will find a solution. When I open house was 8 years old. This country went through a war a war that had convinced the country that had demonstrated their military superiority and I was going to be the end of all the words with the with their neighbors. When he 111 hose with 14 years old, he learned along with

the rest of the country. That was not the case. Four years later chances are he would be drafted into the army. Are you it's been 4 years not as he had once imagined sitting in the guard towers in the border patrol something, you know quiet and then moving on with his life seems very likely face real Combat face the horrors of War. I have a thing for a teen to take n Ronnie wants taken. Listen to let her know. I'm sorry. It's called the letter for my uncle. I'd not translate it and Rhymes in my apologies to the original author, but not here we go.

My uncle wrote a sad letter a letter dipped in blood. He lies wounded bandaged in rambam hospital many many are the tidings. There are also too many wounded. Let peace come let it come let it come and everything. So the Blair 5th grade Probably has red balloon. What's her family and her community who she saw ripped apart by War? People live that would forever change. Or like that simply would not continue. This is what teens and an older children were thinking

at the time you can imagine. This was also pretty traumatic for younger kids as well. And to them came a book one year later that help them learn how to process their grief. a tale of five balloons Now chances are this book was not specifically written as a response to the Yom, Kippur War Marion Ross. Certainly never said that she did. So in response to the war that you wrote it in response to the war but She had very high hopes for her book. So this is from an interview a few decades later, but she said that her goal was to take children back and forth between sadness and happiness

so they can learn about overcoming sorrow and the fact that when someone loving me hugs a balloon, you can pop it. Is range and diversity of feelings is a lot more important than learning the names of the colors. Me and Roth wanted to send a message a message about how you process grief how you can grieve in a healthy way how you can learn to let go of things that that you care a lot about when time for them to move on. This is the message that spoke to the heart of the people at the time. It was necessary needed to hear. I think this book is very much proof. If you want to read the

heart of a society you want to know what makes them tick listen to the stories. They tell their children. And so I'll ask again. In the Ruby Community what makes us Tech what's at the heart of our society? What are the stories that we are telling our children? What was first think about what what what are these stories where they coming from where the hearing them will people come into our community and all sorts of ways. They come through books and tutorials. They come through code bootcamps. They come through code workshops. Maybe they coming from other language

communities that if watch talk to her or red things online to hear about our community, they hear about our technology and they want to be a part of it. There are many Avenues by thinking in all these Avenues and I can fly. You know, not the recording for the competition cell as well. They're hearing stories and I think the stories are very much about people. People who Inspire us with their humor your kindness your curiosity your pragmatism. I think we actually have a pretty strong and and and comparatively healthy culture and at the same time.

I think there's always room for improvement. And then I'm going to point to specific cases of where there was only one. He's improving and then we'll see how it how how that process happened. But in order to get there, I think we need to look at another story. So, this is Kathy on her. I just want to point out because you only see on this slide Cuts beyond the the name is a play on the paperwork at def which means silver the fish in the book is this like silver shiny material? And so you see this in the in this

particular slide it is it is properly silver in all the rest of the illustrations are going to see basically because I I scanned the book on a on a standard flatbed scanner. It's interpreted the shiny silver thing as black which makes up the pace is very very hard to see unfortunately, but but that doesn't mean I have so anyway, so I wrote this book 1990 pull cord was an accomplished artist and illustrator design many Israeli banknotes and stamps. You can see a variety of different styles mzark

work at a certain point in his life. He turned his attention to children's literature. So he created book covers and he Illustrated entire books for others, but he also wrote and Illustrated a number of his own books. And this is one of the most popular so it tells a story I'm going to just pause for a second and point out in case you weren't aware. Hebrew is read from right to left. So that's why the pager flipping in the opposite direction that you expect and on the secular panel. So there's two things being fried when they tried to write down first in the left panel. Okay. See it on the

silver fish and all of his silver friends siblings in his in his cousins everything and they all you know, have a wonderful big family, but he also likes to explore in his own exploring the Great Wide World official shapes and sizes and colors also want to find out before we move on to the to the economy of the story that that the style of the illustrations here is kind of interesting to me. It's a little bit reminiscent of the work of Eric Carle who wrote The Very Hungry Caterpillar. It's got to be simple illustrations a lot of playing with

color and texture here. Which I think I bought a fun for kids. So Monday is off on one of the big black mounts that is actually supposed to be black. So just and not sure what it is. He got old clothes when you see the great big guy. And I have two you're coming out of it. So this is pretty weird. Clearly. It's not a mountain that don't have eyes. Animals around a little more and you see these vertical white stripes. What are those? That's weird. Okay. So suddenly the thing starts speaking and it says little fish. Who are you and they

have this whole exchange back and forth. We're basically says I'm well, you're too close to see me move back no more. We got more great. We're good. Now you can see the whole well, And he says okay, that's interesting. You're a great big well, but but why you crying what's wrong and the whale says? Well, I'm actually just a kid. I lost my parents. I don't know where they are, and I don't know what to do. I feel helpless and little fish coffee on says. I got you. And he recruited whole school fish and they also found in many different directions. Definitely a case where two heads are better

than one and in very short order with I don't know how many hundreds of a fish they if they find a parent's the well if a trained eye to its parents that are happy to be grateful to the little fish there and the the whale and the fish become best of friends, of course that he comes up for this equals. That's not a joke book. So altogether a lovely little story kind of unremarkable in a sense. Why am I sharing with you? Well this book addresses of the three common childhood fear of abandonment.

Kids early to frame their parents are going to suddenly disappear. And there are other books to that have been written to address the same issue. And as one book that I recall from my childhood was also address this it's called are you my mother? I think there's a significant difference between these two bucks. Are you my mother is a story of a bird who hatches and the mom's not there until we decide I'm going to go off and find my mother and tell you what kind of animals. Are you my mother know. Are you my mother know? Are you my mother no vehicles and finally

a construction vehicle presumably piloted by a mountain construction worker pick up the bird put them back in the nest the mom suddenly arrives and there's a very lovely reunions scene. But the whole way the animals that keep that he meets are at best a pathetic and at worst kind of aggressive and makes fun of them. Are You My Mother the baby bird? Ask the count? How can I be your mother said the cow. I'm a cow. I'm like, we're immediately the way love helped by those who are around him. Tell

you my mother the bird is insulted and degraded for daring to ask the question. Play reasonable touching considering that literally being born today. You kind of the definition of a beginner. But it's okay. If you don't want to take it from me, maybe this is too much to Vacation. Take it from random Twitter person at the Dwayne sign who writes are you my mother a Lost Child asks adults for help is mocked for not knowing that your mom has to look just like you or you can't be family and the playing on dangerous construction equipment with no supervision somehow survive. Your loss not

there yet. But I think behind the snork is a really important point. This book send a terrible message a number of terrible messages and then to me that the biggest thing is about asking questions. And how we treat people who don't know thanks. I want to point this mother stories with might be familiar. Now that we've seen those on the outside. We can look a little bit in words as well. So it to more English literature so she remembers stories. I love a lot of stories by dr. Seuss which would tell very important messages that I think I've had a tremendous influence on our society

here in the US about dictatorship The Sneetches ice cream Port messages there about about racism and The Lorax about environmentalism. Doctors who definitely knew that his work to have an impact in so I kind of shocked me that he wrote some books with truly horrific messages. Messages like well, if somebody steps into your life and won't take no for an answer in kind of walks all over you like it's probably going to be fine and eventually put clean up after themselves and you don't even tell your parents about the Cat in the Hat. I was I was

shocked when I pick this up this book up after a lot of years and the last page of the book is basically my mom comes home and says to the kids. Hey what happened while I was gone and the kids had like this debate, you know, so we tell our mom or not and the book include the final line of the book is what would you do if your mother asked you? As a parent I know what the answer is until your parents. I don't understand. I don't understand how this book is anyway, okay. It's about how if you ask someone to do something and they say no

that's okay. Just ask him again and ask him again and ask him again and what to do it on the train. Will they do it in the rain? What they do it in the house or with a mouse or in a box or with a fox? As you might guess I do not like that Sam. I Am I do not like green eggs and ham And I told this to people and sometimes people respond like yeah, I know that maybe you could interpret it that way but like this is really a book about trying new things. Usually try new things and okay, maybe maybe that's true. Maybe that was just what dr. Seuss was trying

to convey with the book. But the bottom line is stories carry messages and it doesn't matter whether you intended to send that message has even even if they're still heard. I need to be really careful about what are the messages that were telling in the stories to our children? Is a parallel in Orem Community. So this is a friend and co-worker former coworker Oceanside. And when I met her she was having a conversation about rails for zombies with Olivia was on at the time of Coatesville zombies. You're probably taking this course do if you have never heard of it. So for

those people I'll just say it's a used to be free for us. And I think it's going for portal site to get it but it was a Gateway into rails for for many many people. And she is of course on my route and she noticed throughout the course that there were a lot of memes using the whole thing. In the training examples in all the videos, but they're all male name not a single female name throughout the course. Angela at Olivia's basically It was basically due to an oversight, I thought we were talking about last night at the at the last yesterday afternoon after you had the second Sino.

To those of us who would not identify with with male names with nine identify as male this course kind of has a message of you're an afterthought. Buona Sera Leafly, welcome in the community and Olivia very much. Look at the heart and in very short order was announced that Realtor zombies in the training examples, which were a little bit easier to change all depending examples of 50/50 male and female names. And I really do good for them for making that change. There's a lot of messages like this that back at that sneak in the things that we do and maybe some intentional that's that's

that's fine. But we need to fix it. Look out for it. We need to fix it. When you look at one more book today was actually published at the story in the newspaper for kids in 1948. Which Republican 1970 as a as a book with the current illustration, so because of that kind of like you. 22 years and I'm sure some publishing complaints the illustrations don't always match the content of the words. So I'm going to tell you the story in the words, but there might be something that you noticed a little bit of the illustrations if you're paying close attention, but anyway, the

book is called a flat for rent by Goldberg. Lego brick with a prolific author playwright and poet she was a professor of comparative literature at Hebrew University one of the top universities in Israel, and she eventually became department head who has been translated many books into Hebrew including Warren. Peace very much and academic academic. And she thought I was worth your time to write stories for children. Think about that. Play Goldberg with all black diamond expertise with all of her deep understanding of children's literature pull core

with Incredible artistic talents your Power House of these in their own way, and they thought it was worth their time to write stories for children. We tend to think of writing. Whether it's literal story for children, or you no newbie tutorials or getting toxic conferences in the movie track. The exact opposite is the case. It's really really hard to do that and it's really hard to do that well, and we need to have a lot more respect for the people who do with Incredible exalted work. I want the book. So the book tells of a five-story tower, which you can see is

Illustrated as having for stories. And he would probably just to have like a reasonably smooth side images of the animals and still fit onto the margin of the page, but it still bothers me a lot. So in each side on the bottom floor you have the hell is described as being obese and having some abilities difficulties a buffer is a cuckoo cuckoo cuckoo cuckoo is are obligate parasites. They lay their eggs in the nests of other birds and other Birds space. We raise the ends of the scoop with no exception. It describes her as spending the whole day going out and a visiting her children were

growing up in the homes of others. On the third floor. You have a black cat very prim and proper with a nice little blue bow around your neck the 4th floor. You have a squirrel squirrel spend all day cracking up and having a great time and that's it for now that used to live there but he left no, apparently it's not important to the flow of the narrative but there's nothing apartment now, so they put up a sign and Pendleton and start coming in from all around. The first visitor is an ant that's the three-letter Auntie the insect kind of thing that looks like

the thing on the screens not the four letter relative time does one make sure that's very very clear and then the neighbors the first come out to greet her and looking around. Another question. Do you like the kitchen? Do you like the hallway? It's about yet everything very very nice. She's very pleased with the structure great. So do you want to move in? Dan says no. I don't want to. But why not and she says well, I don't like the neighbors. I'm an aunt. But the assumption is right. The answer is classically the the hard worker the one who constantly moving

around and getting things done. And there's a fat lazy. Hen who lives in this in this building and I don't want to be a neighbor with someone like that. Of course, the the hen is very embarrassed by that characterization of your lifestyle and the walk off. Black panther cotton is a rabbit situation repeats itself. Goes to visit his very pleased with structure. Do you want to live in? No why not? I don't like the neighbors. I'm a rabbit. I'm the mother to 20 Idora belittle bunnies. Noodle kugel care. This cuckoo does not take care of her children. They're all live in Wildlife

where my children from her. I need to protect my children for her children. So I don't want to live here was very embarrassed at this description of your lifestyle and the rabbit looks off. And there's a third guest at difference and the way that you know that he's a little bit different is because he's a pig. Jewish door thing Christina, can you please filthy and disgusting animals and just take it's really no different. So we looked around if we were the structure complains of the kitchen isn't sturdy Enough by then that

is pretty please and they say, okay great. Do you want to move in and he says no, I don't I don't like the neighbors. I'm a pig. I'm a white the sound of whites going back to the days of creation. This is black hat. We can live under the same roof. That's not okay with me. And unlike in previous situations where the neighbors basically didn't say anything and you know, someone Berenstain some walk off and never in this case the neighbors altogether say hey if that's what you going to be like if that's your attitude. We don't want you here. Either can't get out.

Fourth is etre is a nightingale. And so the Nightingale comes in looks around humming. And again is pretty please with a place you want to move in. No, why not? I don't like the neighbors. I'm a nightingale. I love beautiful hymns and songs all day. I love to have beautiful things coming from my ears and my delicate ears cannot take the noise in a racket made by the squirrel who lives next door cracking up all day. Not for me. Good night. Walks off course of squirrels during darst. The final visitor is the dove

the symbol of peace and actually starts finding fault with the apartment and she says well, you know the room for a little bit cramped on the kitchen hallway kind of dark and they say oh, so I guess you don't want to live here. She says no, I would love to be here because the neighbors are all so wonderful and she starts finding something to compliment about each neighbor. Chicken has a comb. The cuckoo is described as Simply Beautiful. The cat is very clean and a squirrel knows how to be the life of the party and have a great time. Intricate with

neighbors like these I know that life is going to be incredible. So she moved in and they all live together happily ever after cleaning silvium highest Shalom good neighbors a life of peace. So what is the story all about? I mentioned this book was at the time with my books at the story. We was originally published in 1948 and 48 is a very important date and Israeli history is the date of the state was founded. It was a very tumultuous time because they were many many people from a different culture coming

together and they have to figure out how to form a society. So he was like, the Reader's Digest version is a whole lot more to say you had surgery coming in from Europe Western culture, basically and in all its forms, You had 42re who came from North Africa and the Middle East a distinct array of of different and how many ways non-western cultures. You had a jury who had their own I did their own thing and I are in a very different way. They don't dress like that anymore. That's how they dress when they came in, but I can say this living a place where

there's a very large family community. They still maintained appraisers in culture in many ways. And by the way, so this is like the major Jewish groups. That's about at the time with 85% today. It's more like 80% of the population of Israel. The rest of it is mostly Arab divided into primarily three different religious groups. So you have the Muslims that's about 80% plus and the remaining is / 50/50 between Christians and Drew's. He's not familiar with them Drew's. Is it kind of Sikh religion? It's an offshoot of Islam. But I am anyways, it's it's quite distinct. I can't tell

you more cuz they're kind of secretive. But but that's not the group and they interact with Society in very different ways Christians actually often do quite well academically this picture and actually used to be a Supreme Court Justice replaced by another person. And the right you see is one of many truths to ask Ali and Liston Israeli Army. Other than welcome to be a little bit more separate from society to be precipitation in in some of these wives and their other small groups are there as well you have Samaritan's Armenians behind so many many different

ethnicities and culture is coming together to form a single coherent Society. And there are other elements as well, right? There's if there's all kinds of differences in terms of how we think about the way we want Society to look different philosophy different moralities different religious beliefs. So this book talks about a few different conflict that existed at the time. It was a very strong socialist movement in Israel around the time of its founding and very likely the ants. I'm basing this by the way on the literary

criticism of dr. Simone the phone for credit. So so that's very likely represents the did the Socialist approach and the the hen likely represents the bourgeoisie who have a very different view of the economics basically, how how would you have a policy in this in this new country? BR the cuckoo and the rabbit very likely represents the different attitudes towards that there were a lot of kids who for one reason or another we're actually growing up without parents growing up on the streets of a

pail of you getting to a lot of trouble cuz that's what happens when you grow up without resources and and there were different opinions society as often happens. If so, what we going to do about you catering to take a more kind of protecting its approach if they like we know what's up her own kids and you know, they're going to be what they look like and what they're going to have with them is looking to have with them or are we going to try to look out for them and make sure they have opportunities? Genesis of culture very awesome cultures think of themselves as

know we are high culture and everything else is lowbrow. It's not worth respecting when you have a lot of different culture coming into one place. It's very easy for there to be a lot of a lot of different ideas about what should be the culture of of the new country. And then there's a problem that well. Yeah, when you have different groups of people because staying in one place, they're going to be racism and you need to be ready to address it. Number is the way of the dove the dove who sees the good in everyone who sees the good in in all sizes and try to find

ways of making peace and compromise. But not even going to be like that. They're always going to be bad actors people who insult others people who make horrible statements and do horrible things. And we need to have a motive response. I think that's presented by the fact that you're the pig is very very clearly rejected is kicked out of the Tower. Everyone else that they didn't do a nice thing and that is okay. But like all the adults are bad, but the way that you

react and sting. Is not necessarily going to be the same if I come across different communities. Every Community has to define the boundaries of what is like, what's what's good behavior? What is bad behavior that going to have some consequences for the nasty thing and then try to move in? Maybe they wouldn't accept if you don't know it didn't happen in the book, but there is like this good behavior. There's bad behavior. And that's so bad that you're going to be kicked out of the side of the Camino. In a sense, I think Elena Gilbert was trying to say is we need a code of conduct? That's

the code of conduct has those two categories of behavior. What's okay, what's not okay, they're going to be consequences and his house and being forced. But I think it's incredible that you could teach at the children and I think is a lot of adults who have been quite yet figured out the need for a code of conduct. I can explain it. But I think isn't a broader Point here, which is that live Goldberg saw a world that needed to change in certain ways. And she decided that her job was to like the way by telling a story. She believed and

I believe if you want the World to Change tell stories of a better world. We mentioned earlier. That has programmers as a program in community. We've created all these different media all these ways of connecting and and and learning from each other. Some of them are really wonderful places. Some of them are super nasty. Any names Private Pyle know if you don't stay away from and there are some that are really a mixed bag. But all these places are sending messages and we think about what are the messages that are there? And what are the rates of change in practically? Set up stories reflect

Society story carry messages and stories can be agents of change. What are we going to do to tell the right stories that make the change we need to see? We'll have a few practical directions to give in this regard. One thing you can do is create a community probably most of us want to do this. But some people have done it really well. So sorry Barrick noticed that you guys are basically the story of good luck work hard and it's on you and she said no

she created the code newbie Community as a supportive Community for people who are learning to code so they could see that yet other people are struggling with the same things and we can actually sometimes connect with each other and further along the way. She told a new story. Ben Halpern noticed that there's a very Macho culture in terms of the way that we communicated ideas in programming. We don't need to attack each other all the time really we will need to do is support each other and learn from each other. And yes, I should be debate

between respectful and you don't have to worry that you're insane idea and you're really going to be harassed. We sounded about your community or we can share ideas and talk about ideas and we don't have to agree with each other all the time, but there's no respect. Always always a modicum of respect. Why did Lee support? Okay, but most of our country home new communities things like that. Lots of ways to create a community but again for all of us. I think we really all do have to be on the lookout for ways to improve a community. How come you that were a part of earlier with with Liz and Olivia

and zombies a great example of seeing a message in the community and trying to improve it. I just want to give you one more example of something that I'm very proud to have been apart of. So this was an ounce I believe whatever else that was real, last year when you hit a friendly image. And over the course near Newton Rianda on the side as well. I saw this and I said, you know, it's awesome. It's friendly it's happy. It's warm. I don't know if it's inclusive. I went over to

the DHS and I said I think we can better understanding on a globe like maybe they can look like they come from different parts of the globe cuz we are trying to be a global Community. Maybe they could look like, you know, they they come from from different kinds of kinds of people. We want to show that we're a diverse community at work and he said totally looks do it to the original artist. And so now we have people from different cultures people from different backgrounds. differently abled people

It's my hope that with this change they're going to be at least one person ideally more. But even if one person out there season imagery and thinks to himself. Wow, this is a really diverse community at the community that wants a lot of times people see in it. It's not that I want to be for this community, but this community wants me to be in it. One person think that way I think that'll be worth it. Black men you can do is promote the stories of other people so he found her at my last text. She had well over 40,000 Twitter followers and I recommend becoming

one of them so they can do things like this probably most of us can at least agree, but she tweeted out once I want to talk about nonviolent games on violent game, but if you are treated me and I'll just that story. I think she must have repeated about a hundred different different weights of people who are creating different nonviolent games. That's a very very strong story. People's minds and shouldn't have to really do anything except for your story from one person and tell it to another. but we don't all have tens of thousands of Twitter followers, but we all have people

that we work with and we don't have people that we interact with at meetups conferences like this. And you will have access to stories that people don't so go ahead and start telling those stories. This is so important. To do important because of brandolini's law. Red Wings Live basically basically staying power. It doesn't go away no matter how hard you try to knock it down. I thought about this a lot. It's a big problem. There are out. There are terrible terrible idea out there that refused to die. But maybe we can

leverage that maybe as a corollary here. Sometimes you have to just think I don't have a choice, but when you do have a choice rather than fighting the nonsense spread awesome ideas red compelling alternatives. And so I want to close by giving you two very practical examples of how to do this. I'm going to give you an idea that I very strongly disagree with but I'm not going to tell you why. I'm going to give you a different idea. Who's the Jeff Atwood one of the founders of stack Overflow and

he wrote a post another Post in a very similar vein basically about how if you ask a question and you don't answer them exactly the right way and you haven't reported enough. You don't even answer. Well, talking on psych overflow people. Sometimes ask questions and are told you acted wrong. I hear the quote. I personally blamed your code. I get around this perfectly fine in my applications by coating the right way. Is that the person still Perfectly Imperfect Lee you like having our

Whatever. So, yeah, people can get pretty nasty on stackoverflow at the same time as like the end is nigh. You have the right way to ask questions. Like you can't say thanks or hello, or you know, all the common words that we use all those little niceties are deleted from questions. It's a it's a very restrictive way and it's a lot of people getting hurt. I want to tell you about another way of doing things. So here's of course. I want to apologize. I thought this was a really good example. It does have some ableist language. So I apologize for that this person

writes. I know my question may be stupid, but I have to ask in other words I'm a newbie. I don't know a whole lot, but I can't even answer to this. I feel uncomfortable asking this question, but at least I feel comfortable enough in this for them knowing that I can ask a question and expect to receive respectful response include with the word. Thanks. Show me Precision 23 simple show my appreciation for the people who going to come and answer the question. Clear the whole long exchange turned out. It wasn't such a silly question. There were about fifteen

different replies, and he concludes in hit in the back and forth by saying. Anyway, thanks for listening and explanations. Thanks for listening. Just the fact that he feels stays asking a question in this forum is worth something to him. And he says and I apologize for the both strength and end tables language here. He says it is better to ask than a few without a doubt it in the head and this is another awesome thing about the Amber Community their attention to the beginners. In other words by making the choice that were going to be able to morph reform were going to live Pete

were going to give people the freedom to to ask questions and I'm in a more natural way. In a way that'll depreciation both both to the people renting a question to the community in general. They've managed to create a community I think. Right. Here's our final example Elon Musk had this tweet that got a lot of attention. Nobody ever change the world on 40 hours a week. It's actually celebrating the culture of overwork. Family program one of the founders of Y combinator agree with him. He write the key to productivity is for people to come back to

work after dinner. And therefore you can have your at your office basically insulting an apartment people can live like right by the office over their entire lives to your start conclude by saying once a company shipped over into the model where everyone drives home to the suburbs for dinner. However late you lost something extraordinarily valuable God help you if you actually start in that mode. Well, I'd like to tell you the story of a company that started in that mode. So I just want to point out before I actually tell the story so I work for cloudinary. I'm not

telling the story. I just left like a Sly recruiting pitch. I'm telling the story because it's a great story. I have access to it. You probably don't want to share it with you. That's that's the beginning and end of it. So he's dying laughing when he and his and his two other place that if we were regular developers, we would love to be here how we going to do that. And they decided they were deprioritized flexibility and the end and a healthy work work life balance healthy work schedule. And what you would do at the at the close of business everyday if

he was circling around the office still working there and he would say that's great. That sounds really important and valuable. I think you can work on it tomorrow. You'll still be there want to go to laptop go home to your family. Enjoy your life and come back in the morning. Set the tone that this is not going to be accompanied. We're overworked his is valued or encouraged in Sac is actively discouraged. Enter the state Club. Mary is a place where it's not uncommon to see whether it's regular employees managers c-level Executives

packing up and going home at 3 in the afternoon to pick up the kids from daycare. by the way Cloudinary is that I can give you exact number to the privately held company, but quite profitable quite Successful by any reasonable and unreasonable metric growing. Rapidly. We're doing just fine. And we could start in that mode. That's the sort that I have to share with you today, but I want you to go out. Because people around you after the conference as well. Tell the stories that are going to create a better world

create those doors yourselves and promote great stories that you hear the other people. Because stories reflect our world, we all kind of know this instinctively when people hear stories, especially if they're new developers their new people in our community. They assume that that's just how things are. That's why I have to adjust myself to go to the Norms that I need to understand and work with What would we tell different stories if we tell healthier stories better stories? You have the power to shape the future and I truly believe that no story shape the

future more than the stories. We tell our children. Thank you.

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