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Women Transforming Technology (WT2) 2020
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Lack of motivation is a side effect of increased stress levels

Making the world a Happier place is Nataly Kogan’s goal, but it is not the human brain’s goal, she pointed out.

“Your brain’s No. 1 job isn’t to keep you happy; it is to help you survive … fight or flight, we know that response,” she said. But under the current crisis, everyone is in limbo and the brain is struggling to establish if it’s safe or not. This is causing a tremendous emotional stress and motivational problems, according to Kogan.

Compassion for co-workers and employees and taking the pressure off and acknowledging needs outside of work is important during the pandemic, Kogan added. She has a three-step process, known by the acronym A.C.T., to help leaders make the workplace a more inclusive and cohesive environment.

A is for acknowledge: “Acknowledge your own challenges, acknowledge your team’s challenges,” she said. C is for care. “Genuinely care. So don’t just do it as a check mark. Bring your humanity and compassion, and actually care about people.” T is teach by example. “So do the things that you want your employees to follow,” Kogan added.

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00:20 Introduction of Nataly Kogan

01:13 What Happier Inc. is?

03:40 What are some scientific skills behind it?

05:55 Emotional health

08:20 Uncertainty is the hardest thing for a brain to deal with

09:42 WT2

12:22 Actually that might help

14:50 Write down actual emotional state

17:32 "I'm afraid to admit that"

18:50 Closing thoughts

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Nataly Kogan
Founder at Happier @ Work

Nataly Kogan is one of the leading global experts in optimizing your emotional health and elevating your leadership. She’s the creator of the Happier Method™, founder and CEO of Happier, and author of Happier Now , which was published in 2018. By the age of 37, Nataly held top positions at McKinsey and Microsoft, was a Managing Director at a venture capital fund, and started or was a member of the senior team at 5 startups and tech companies. But all of this overachievement came at a huge cost of stress and overwhelm, which was the catalyst for Nataly to give it all up to start her company, Happier, with this mission: To help millions of people thrive in work and life by improving their emotional health with science-backed skills and practices. Today, tens of thousands of people cultivate their emotional health and Elevated Leadership skills through Happier @ Work programs, online courses, and other learning tools. Nataly is a highly sought-after international keynote speaker and has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including The Washington Post , The New York Times , and The Dr. Oz Show. Nataly came to the US as a refugee with her family when she was 13 years old, and one of her greatest accomplishments was learning how to speak English by watching Alyssa Milano on the classic 80s sitcom, Who’s The Boss? Nataly lives outside of Boston with her husband and daughter, and when she isn’t speaking or teaching, can be found painting colorful abstract art and cookin

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From around the globe. It's the cue with digital coverage of women, transforming technology. Brought to you by VMware. Lisa, Martin covering the 5th, annual women's transforming technology, event. The first time the event has been resolved. We're not coming to you from Palo Alto to be talkin with one of the event speakers. The founder of happier. Nataly. Kogan Natalie. Welcome to the cube. Thanks so much for having me. It's great to join. You even virtually exactly. And we're so fortunate that

this, I guess if you can if you can put a positive spin on it. This event happen. When we have technology to still be able to enable as much interaction and two-way conversations are multiple conversations as possible. I don't know that you just did a session and a couple days ago at the digital women transfer. It was awesome. And it's such a happier as a subject. Couldn't be more really his little tell me a little bit about what happened. What the inspiration was for, your company definitely is. So as many on Panera's, the inspiration was my personal Journey. So

I grew up in the former Soviet. I was 13 years old. My parents and I left everything and everyone behind and on a journey to try to come as refugees experience with been several months and Refugee settlements in Europe, before getting permission to come see us as refugees. And we started our journey in the projects outside of this parade in on welfare and food-stamp very grateful to have an opportunity but really, really tough and I was really overwhelmed. That was a teenager. I spoke almost no English and it was all overwhelming for me. And I kind of

decided for myself that if I could just work really hard, achieve a lot of things become successful, then I would feel happy. And then I would just like, honor this American dream and for the next 20 years. I did work very, very hard. I did the Very successful. I received the 446s. I worked at Mackenzie, you know, the very well-known consulting firm that women and men share capital. I started four different companies, that was part of Microsoft and other tech companies. And on the outside. I was achieving incredible stuff and

while I still am still proud of every single thing I achieve whenever I would have seen it, I feel happy and then it was just like a bubble just popped up and I didn't feel happy anymore. And so I push myself harder and harder because I waited happiness for the chief mess until after two decades of doing this. I just couldn't do it anymore. I completely burnt out and it was a really, really dark time in my life. And I knew I had to find a different way to live so that I could do work. That's meaningful to me, but that I could also honor myself as a human and find joy in the

present month and that led me doing a lot of research in Psychiatry and Psychology and Neuroscience. And learning all of these incredible skills and practices. That changed my life. Starting with gratitude and my career as a technology except behind you sound happier. We have the same missions since we've been founded, and that is to help millions of people drive and work on in life by practicing science back. I'm still to cultivate their well-being. What are some of the scientific skills behind it and anything that that you see,

that is even more pivotal in week, 8 of this? Work-from-home shelter-in-place, you know, it's, it sounds really weird to say, but I feel like I've been preparing my whole life to help people right now because the skills that I've learned, and I share or so essential, and the two, that I would mention that I've been, we've been doing all these virtual session for teens and companies in. This is the ones I talked about the first business deal of gratitude, you. No gratitude is just very simply zooming in on something in your life. That is good. That is positive, that is

Meaningful and honoring it with your full appreciation. And, you know, we're all right. Now, we're going for so many challenges and we all have with all the negativity bias, and that means we're much more sensitive than humans, do anything that's negative into anything that's positive. And when we're going for a challenge that negativity bias is even more sensitive. Do I know many folks right now, or Feeling really overwhelmed with their own feelings, but their own sense of loss and here and with all the negative news. And so practicing gratitude is essential because when you pause and you

focused on the things in your life, as it is a myth, the challenge that you do appreciate, you remind your brain that this knowledge is not everything that there is more to your life than what is going wrong. And that actually help you to feel a little bit less stressed, and anxious. And the other instead of buying that I left, the share is another skill that I fuck about. What does simply mean that we learn? Look at how things are and how we feel with flarity instead of judgment bread and shorthand for judgment should shouldn't be like this. That

shouldn't be this way. And then having Clarity and allowing ourselves to actually feel the difficult. Dealing helps us to move through them with a little bit more. Is I think it's one of the most powerful mind Fest Mindset shift that I learned on my journey is that happiness does not mean that you feel positive all this time. Happiness, and emotional well-being, means that we embraced all of our different feelings, including the difficult and we learn how to move through them, with compassion. What are some of the things that when you're talking to the c-suite executives at certain

companies, whether it's VMware others, how are executive teams managers? Where does emotional health come into the play? Knowing that these folks are managing teams. There are worth seeing as you planting of the negativity bias for seeing the numbers of unemployment go up and up and up. Where is emotional health in terms of priority at the executive level. So is this one of the? It's so it sounds really weird to say but all of a sudden it's like them, this huge wave. It already started by some companies that we work with many of them already understood the

executives already understood that employee well-being and emotional health is not an extra. It is not optional. It is non-negotiable. If you want your people to be at their best. There are literally mountains and research that show that when you cultivate employee we will be seeing people are more productive, more resilient race. This is that the company is that were in a place where all this isn't really important, or this is nice to have. They are not recognizing that. This is actually the most important thing that they can invest in for the success and Longevity

and survival of their business person. So I'm actually incredibly grateful for that. I don't like the fact that we have to pay for it, but I'm incredibly grateful that in the Challenge in time. More and more leaders are understanding, but their own well-being and emotional health of their employees is non-negotiable, not just for survival their businesses, but if they want to be at their best and actually figure out how to thrive and whatever the future holds, And I'd like to hear that because the massive amount of uncertainty that we're all facing is unprecedented. And now you

can't pick up the phone, call your grandmother and say, what did you guys do back in the day? And honestly, even if there had been something similar, 1918, haven't been that long ago, people have nowadays are used to getting everything that you want on demand and also being able to get connected, good Wi-Fi and be able to deliver. What your clients, what your, what your boss is, the uncertainty factor that really weighs heavily on emotion, is a huge inhibitor to productivity. Grocery shopping or worried. If I can dump in

uncertainty, is the hardest thing for a brain to deal with our brains would rather know that. Something very bad will definitely happen. Then to be an uncertainty and I've actually been talking so much the companies and leaders about this, that this is literally the most breast that we can experience because our brains number one job, and I'm the founder of company called happy hour, but I always say this, your brains, number one job is not to keep you happy. It is to help you survive. And so you brain is constantly evaluating. Your environment is a state or is it dangerous, right fight or

flight? We know that response. What's happening right now, is that the brain and not come up with an answer? It doesn't know, is it safe? Is it not safe? And I don't just mean in a Mac for a way, macroeconomic way with the virus. I mean, day-to-day things change day today, we're juggling kids and family and our businesses are changing. So the brain doesn't give up. It's still tries really hard. Figure out how to keep you safe. And that hard that working overtime. The way it does that is by releasing stress hormones. So on top of just the very real challenges that so many folks have with

worrying about loved ones. Juggling working from home and family. There's also this chronic level of stress that we're all feeling because of uncertainty Tell me a little bit about the interactive session that you held at WT through the other day. What were some of the common concerns or questions that you heard from the audience? Yeah, it's that it's really interesting. It was such a great session and we had a lot of questions. We could not answer all the questions and I think that it means a lot to me cuz I really thought about what they wanted to ask. There's a

couple of things that emerged as a Common Thread. The first was, how do I help someone in my life of colleague? Someone I manage a loved one. How do I help them during this time? If they are really overwhelmed are stressed or feeling sad. And we talked about the skill of acceptance, and we talked about how it might be our instinct to immediately cheer up the person, but actually, the bigger gift we can give them is to let them know that it's okay to not be okay and to honor their feelings with our acceptance and that actually helps them get through. So that was one of the things that came

up a lot. One was with all of this uncertainty and the stress like people would ask, if I have trouble getting motivated, like I love my job. I love what I do, but I have so much trouble, getting motivated and that is very real. And the first thing that if anyone listening feels this way, there's nothing wrong with you. Think about the amount of energy, your brain is using on all the stress. So no wonder. You feel more tired and not as motivated. And so we talked about practicing self-compassion in our expectations of ourselves and recognizing that we are undergoing something

unprecedented and soda and then get motivated connecting the past on your to-do list. Do how do they help someone else because that is where we connect for a sense of purpose, right? So that project you're working on with your team or that presentation that you just can't get motivated to do. Ask yourself, who does this help? And actually answer the question. And in that moment, you connect your sense of purpose, which helps us be more. Atlanta and more motivated. In the motivation or lack thereof is a huge problem. And I even, you can't think it's not just me. That's just you. It's

got to be all the way up to the tops of come down. These that are really struggling because you say, the brain is so Focus right now and busy and trying to process things. And there are no concrete answers. But one of the things that you said, I read your article in the Washington Post that you just did in the last week or so, with your daughter and here with my daughter. Yeah, but your daughter Mia and the validation was spot-on and it's it's so simple as but it's one of those things that I think often we we think well, let me explain something and try to help you. And that way

without, maybe stopping back and actually, that might help me but what helps you Are you saying that that the executive leaders are? Also, I'm stepping back and asking their teams. How are the ways that you want me to communicate with you or is that something that's happening? You know, I think that we are in an era of human embracing leadership of and I am so welcoming this era of leaders who are leading with their Humanity first and are embracing the humanity of their people first. You know, I have this actually

working on my Nextbook right now with just four leaders and I have the part that because I was a leader for so many years and I always thought that I keep my emotions hidden. That emotions really didn't have anything to do with work. That's why I have this concept for leaders. They imagine you're holding a whiteboard and this is your emotional whiteboard on it are written, you're feeling whether you want to admit them or not, the team feels them and it's the same for everyone in the team. So, when you walk into a meeting with her at the virtual meeting room person, what is written on your

emotional, whiteboard? What are you feeling? And how are you are protesting? Others? What do you want to be written on your emotional whiteboard, right? I think we would say. Why wanted to say that I care about you as my employee that I want to hear how you're feeling but think about are the actors. You are taking a lining with, what's on your emotional, whiteboard, bright, and so listening and pairing. You know, I have those came up with the short hand really for me as a leader during a challenging time. And it's at ACC. The first is acknowledge, acknowledge. Your own challenges.

Acknowledge. Your team's challenges, right? Validation this point, he is prepare genuinely care, right? So don't just do it as a checkmark, but bring your humanity and compassionate actually are about people. There's so much research that when employees know that their leader cares about them that on its own is helpful for them for their well-being, in their productivity and he acts. So, act stitch, by example, so do the things that you want your employees to follow and I do steal leaders stepping up. One more in there and their acceptance. And again, I

think this is a difficult but you need to elevate our human women and men to eat. When we talk about gratitude a few minutes ago, right down maybe right. Maybe it helps with your visual learner or some of that learns, by storytelling to write things down. Write down each day a few things. Maybe they seemed so simple that you're grateful for or maybe even a lucky I'd give you a motion of whiteboard. I can see that as something that would be helpful to write down. Do you write down what your actual emotional state

is and what you want it to be. So a couple things on that for the short answer is, yes. It doesn't really matter how you practice, like, people say to me, like, I'm not a journal or at that's fine. As long as you are specific in your gratitude, so, instead of ungrateful. Family, how about I'm really grateful that I can give my daughter a hug before I start at Centerview, right? So the more specific the better and actually the smaller, the better you talked about small things research, shows that it's the frequency small positive experiences that

contributes to our life satisfaction more than anything Grand. So the smaller the better and capturing does felt so you can write it in his journal. You can write it on a sticky note. Maybe it's the text that you sent to her friends, to encourage them to practice gratitude as a leader. Maybe it's an email that you sent to your teams that stopped cheering and in some way really does help. And when it comes to the emotional whiteboard, the practice that I share with everyone is a check in to check in with yourself, right? It's so incredible, you know, we have this group for women,

Executives elevating with the leader. Is it that all virtual group at the year-long program? It was worth all before. We have a group that goes with us every year and one of the practices we do live in the morning and in the afternoon you check in with yourself. How am I feeling? And you would not believe the impact that that has on their ability to solve problems on their ability to show up as their best just by pausing and checking-in. Like how am I feeling? What is that my emotional whiteboard acknowledging that without judgment being compassionate towards yourself? And then staying,

what is one thing I can shift? If I would like to feel differently. The announcement pieces critical I think because it it's the vulnerability to step up and do. I don't feel great about this and let me love you. Say that out loud. Maybe it helped me become accountable to that or I said it to a boss or colleague to put it out there. That's hard thing for people to do, especially if there is this dichotomy of people being concerned about job. So when we're seeing, what's going on in the news that come up during your WT to session about? I'm afraid to admit that

I'm not motivated because our company's experiencing layoffs. Yeah. It's definitely come off in the session and other sessions of fun of finding that balance. And look, you have to be realistic because we all have different cultures and our team's. You have to be realistic about your leadership at what I find over and over is that I'm offensive City, when's the day, right? So you have to have to make a call, right? How much do share. But even if it's just A little bit of acknowledgement. It is helpful because it helps you not resisted so much and more likely than not. There's somebody

on your team who feel, similarly? So that by the way, there's a bird and no, we're not alone. There's actually neurological comfort and knowing we're not alone, like we need that sense of safety. But also you may then be able to move through that and brainstorm together and help each other, you know, you have to judge by the poster of your team, but authenticity and you and acknowledging your Humanity to whatever degree. You feel comfortable is usually an incredibly helpful practice to help you be at your best, whatever, that means that they are putting everything. All right. I always

say authenticity, is contagious is so great. Having you on the program. I wish we could keep chatting, but it is time to go. Thank you so much supposed to go to a happier, more, happy you're happy and I'm more happier. Come. Lots of lots of songs of free, blog posts and video. All of the different practices. I shared more about anything we do. So yes, I'm just so happy and thank you so much for such a thoughtful questions. I'm always incredibly grateful. I appreciate that has been a pleasure, having you and I want to thank you for watching on behalf of Natalie. Covid-19 Lisa,

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