About the talk
Senior Executive Vice President, Loren Ridinger comes to the Stage in Style! According to Loren, the biggest mistake is believing we have the time. Loren believes the place we’re going has freedom. Loren said, “Tell people you love them. Look around and tell them you love them.” There’s only so much you can do to help people. People eventually need to help themselves. You need to outdo your past. While we’re living, do something with your life.
As Senior Vice President of internet retail giants Market America and SHOP.COM, I am the proud creator of the award-winning cosmetics line, Motives® by Loren Ridinger, the uber-luxurious skincare line, Cellular Laboratories™, the solution-oriented product line Fixx™, and founder of Loren Jewels®, an exquisite jewelry collection. I've made it my mission to change the face of both the beauty and entrepreneurial industries for many years, and as such, I've been featured in both Forbes and Vogue. Be sure to keep up with me on LorensWorld.com.View the profile
You guys are going to make me cry over there. Okay? I need some tissues. Very emotional morning, very emotional morning. I love you. Can somebody give me some tissue? Seriously? I wasn't joking about the flying part. Help me out. I woke up. Thank you. These poor folks back. Everybody has been so supportive. I first woke up this morning. And first of all, you know, when you do these events, you go to bed really late. Really late. Your sleep right? Since? Like 4:30 every morning
and then you wake up at 6. Can you do hair and makeup, right? So you don't get much sleep. Then I went to go take a shower. Somebody forgot to put the shampoo in the body soap, back in my bathroom. The Bobby Joe Bobby, Joe, which I can't live without that was in the shower, trying to figure out what I was going to do and I was very frustrated cuz you really can't go out to go get anybody to help you and my poor husband kept me up all night cuz he has a chest off. So he was coughing, which is why he's not sitting out here cuz I refuse to let him come out here and made him sit in the back and
take care of himself. So I know you're watching back there, honey. It's all good. And then of course, I've been struggling with a sore throat for three days, but we're getting through it. So I need your energy this morning. You got me. You got me. So, are you ready for me? Oh my God. I love you guys. Love you, guys. You guys are amazing, you know. There's so much that happens to make this event happen. And I always say to people, like you think the hard part's being up here. This is easy part. You know what I mean? If the easy
part who has Never been on the stage before down here. Give me a hand. Never been on this day. Can you come up here for a second? No, just for one second. Yeah, you come over here. Can I have a microphone for him real quick? Sorry, I forgot to fill you guys in backstage. Hi, how are you? What's your first name? Lewis? Say hi to everybody. Say, I don't know it. Louis you nervous. Yeah, I understand me to. Are you nervous? This is the easy part. The hard work happens behind the scenes. It's called the process. Louis. Thank you. I want you to by the way, next time you're going to be up here
making a lot of money, right? Absolutely. Thank you for everything. My point is My point is it's not hard to walk onstage. This is actually the easy part B was able to get nervous. Generally. I don't but for some reason today, I was having all types of anxiety and she's probably cuz I was sick and you know, I didn't have anything. I'm pulling bodies at home, not to stress me out. I need to be focused this morning. Tell me about the first American this and I'm like, stop. Everybody stop. Then they made me change my commute times. It's been a morning. Here's the
deal. It's a new year. We have a new chance. We have a new chance. It's a new year. It's a new year. We have a new chance now is the perfect time for you to shine. Not the perfect time for you to shine. I love seeing you guys like that. I love you. Now is the perfect time for you to shine. Shine bright like a diamond guys, give yourself a new beginning. It's time to be a leader. I am forever grateful for all of you in this incredible company because we got the
opportunity to create a healthier and happy world. Think about that. Think about the impact you're making on people every single day with our products. Which are products with the opportunity. You guys are here, give yourselves a round of applause. Here's the thing. Here's the thing, guys. Is today Saturday, Saturday? Thank you, Tom. It's Saturday. How many people do you know, be sitting in a giant Arena? Play Mission believe in the same thing. You guys are doing that. You guys are doing that. You guys are doing that. You're sitting here on a Saturday. When you could be
outside playing doing other things, in South Beach. But guess what? They might not be going where we're going. But where we're going lies Freedom? Where we're going live Freedom. Trust me where we're going live for you and you know, what, the biggest mistake we make in life is to believe that we have time. To believe we have time. We think that we're never going to run out of time. And we don't know when we run out of it. It's the thing that frustrates me the most. That's why we say, never go to bed with somebody that you love mad. Never go to bed,
mad hug your kids at night, hug your husband and your wife and I tell him how much you love them everyday. I tell my family. I love them a hundred times a day. I know. I'm so annoying. Sometimes if I don't say it back to me and Mike. Did you forget to say it back to me? Like you don't, you know, we love you. I just want to hear it. Tell people, you love them. Look around. Tell people, you love them. Yes, yes. Love you. Love you. Love you guys. Okay, there's a lot of love him here.
Lot of loving here. Okay. Hey, hey. Hey, yes. Okay. I love you. Bye. Okay, I'm still up here guys. Hello. Okay. There will come a time and a day. That you will run out of time. Last night they are and I and Andrew and Mark found out. We lost a dear friend, 25 years, 56 years old, woke up on Wednesday morning had a pain in his heart. Found at 11 last night, went down on the floor. And I was thinking about Eddie Elder this morning because we have a long history. All of us together as friends,
you know, we spent lots of Wednesday night's together, right, Mark and Andrew and a lot of fun and he was a great guy with a date later in the day. and, He did really well early on. And it's starting in N forties, but then he took a dive when the market took a dive and he never recovered. And the thing is, he kind of resented the world for it. And it always paid me to watch him in pain. It always pains me to watch him and pay. My good friend has mounted who I know is watching right now who owns the very
same as forwards here in Miami. He was talking to me about it yesterday and he said, gosh, I feel like we've shared so many memories with him yet. We couldn't get him. Right? And the thing is, you can only do so much to help people. People also have to help themselves. People also have to help themselves and while I love it and I miss Eddie the pain went on for so long. So instead of being in competition with his past, it was in competition with everybody around him, which is the wrong thing to do.
Your past you need algae, your past due need a outdo your past. Not everybody else around you. You need to answer your pass dies. and when he died, and I found out last night, I thought I don't know how to fix everybody, you try, but you can't fix everybody. And it's a reminder that life is short. We don't know when he's going to call us. There's no warning. Nobody sends you a memo and says it's your day. Snap it. Like Tom Holden just said, snap. While you're living do something with your life. Do something with your life
while you're living, you know, I said this before as a child, as a child, we can do anything. Nothing can stop us. You learn to walk. No problem. Think about that. You learn to walk as a child and you don't have a single problem. Do you get up and fall down, or you get up and fall down when you get up and fell down, but you don't reach over to Mom and say, hey Mama just watching things. Not for me. I'm not doing it anymore. You just get up and do it. And you live your life, the same way. You
get that you get that. I just want you to live your life. The same way when you learn to ride a bike. What do you say? Hey look Mom. No hands. Is that what you do? Andy? Look Mom? No hands. Learn to swim. That's easy. I can do it. You see the older? We get the fierce XL. Problem is you feel like, you know, you have to know everything before you do anything. And you end up doing nothing. Because you think, you know, need to know how to do everything. Before you do anything, you end up doing nothing. Let me tell you something. The fact that you're here, means you're going to try, it means that you
care. You didn't come here for nothing. You came here to make this happen with me. In order to swim in order to swim folks, we got to get wet. We got to get wet, don't we? You know, some people say, well, how can I believe in a company like Market America? When I haven't been in that long? Let me tell you something right now. Your belief, has nothing to do with the company and has everything to do with you everything to do with, you. Stop making excuses. This isn't about the
company, how long you've been involved? It has everything to do with your heart. And the longest distance is from here to here. The longest distance is from here to hear your head to your heart. And if those two don't connect the magic doesn't happen, make sure that's right, baby. Make sure your goals are aligned. Make sure, you know what your wants are. Why you want it? So you can go and get it. Ask yourself. Am I really doing what I want to do right now with this company. Can I do more? Its 2020.
You got a new pants? I want you to work on the things that has made you weak. So, today. I'm going to talk to you about working your weakness. I want you to work your weakness. Now. We're going to talk about that in a few minutes, but don't let that pain. If you, if you don't know what your weakness is. I'm sure you can call a friend and I'll be happy to tell you. That's right, call your friends. And I'll be happy to tell you by the way, Joe and Melissa Gorga and It Real Housewives of New Jersey, Melissa. Gorga are here.
They just came in town. Happy to have you guys. Listen, we're going to work those weaknesses. Cuz he has to save. If we're not working on the things that make us weak were using them as a crutch. And we're doing nothing. And that's not what I want you to do. You see? I have lots of weakness is too and I'm going to share them with you today because I want you to understand for some reason, some of you have this impression that this corporate came and I know Mark Ashley looks great, but he's not weaknesses to She said a lot.
My point is is hope for 14 has weaknesses. We all do we all have weaknesses and we all have to work on them every single day. And here's the thing. It's a process. And guess what everyday you will always be part of the process, right? Steve. You cannot change. You never get to the end of the process just so you guys know, how do you say? Say never get to the end? And when you die guys, guess what you're going to die with an inbox. There will still be things in that inbox Mark, Ashley.
Cuz this guy never takes a break. This President of yours, never takes a moment for himself. You better get up for him cuz let me tell you something. I have never seen a president in my life to work more than Marketplace. Ever. Ever. I have never seen a president work harder in my life. Good morning, Sarah morning, honey. Let me talk. That's right. And that's the truth. That's the truth. Backstage, instead of him enjoying the moment of how amazing he was when he
commanded the stage for the last 2 days. Amazing. He was worried about how many emails, he hasn't gotten back to for you. It's true. I don't want him to feel that way. And I'm hoping that this is going to help him to today. We're going to work our weakness. Okay? What am I fear? Is one of my weaknesses that I was afraid to fly for a long time, but I did it every single week, no matter what. With one exception. We have this beautiful little house. And when I say little house, it's a little house. The little Bungalow and Cat Cay Bahamas. And it's
mine and Jay are Sanctuary. We don't allow staff to come there and work. We don't let people do our laundry. We don't let people cook for us. We don't let people clean Elizabeth been there. Before. We do all the work ourselves cuz it's the only place we can have some space and privacy. The only place, it's a very special place for us. It takes about 2 hours to get there on Utopia for our boat. And that's how we travel there. And we used to go every weekend when the weather was right. The problem was the location of the house was
restricted for me by the weather. Meaning, if the water wasn't safe to travel and over 4 ft of seas. I didn't get to go to my house. And that meant the Jr. And I didn't get a break then then we still have to stay in the house with people around us all the time. Not that we don't love people but you need privacy. You need to be able to take care of yourself tear for yourself. So Lately of the last couple years. The water's been rougher out in the Gulf Stream in a few never traveled in the Gulf Stream. You'll know it can quickly turn
up and what you think could be for, if he could be 78, you're stuck out there to mess. You don't want that to happen to you. So I always look at the weather in advance and the weather dictated when I got to go to my house, but it was great. I do every weekend, it was where they come home on Monday, Friday, Monday didn't matter cuz I can work wherever I was. There are we have 30 houses on this private island where our home is and we have a little Runway strip. A little. What I call milk run, airplanes. Does milk. One airplanes have one
propeller in the front? Occasionally, they have to. And they scare me. Yes, Mark said one and Kevin is shaking his head cuz he's like me afraid to fly and we both feed that anxiety to each other which is a bad thing is called a weakness. YouTube. Anyway, we got out to the Bahamas, the weekend before Christmas, Jeremiah loan. First time we've been alone and probably a year and we needed the time we needed to be together. Jesus, I'm only on 52 and I've already been through 20 minutes. I mean, okay, okay. Any rate we get out
there and we have to go home because I was going to meet David and Stacy for the gmdss meeting. Correct? What date was that? 14th of December. I could have missed that. I was so excited to be there with them until the weather turned up. And it was no way. Captain Antonia was going to take me home captain and Tony. I love you. You're the best. There was no way the captain was going to take me home and that weather. So the day finally came to Jared said Lawrence you have two choices. One, you can call
David and Stacy and cancelled. Or two you can get on that plane. But keep in mind, I never been on that plane, my whole life. But I thought if I'm going to try it, I'm going to try it without my children. So if anything goes wrong or not with me, so I said, you know what, I'm going to go for a but can I ask you a question? If you tell me where all the money is so I can write Amber an email. Ramanujan, call Mark and tell him we're at all. I so, we're covered, and I'm not kidding you. I did all of that. I had to fix all the things that scared me in my mind, in order to
make myself get on that plane. For twenty years. I didn't go on that plane and first six years that I own that house. I restricted myself because of my weakness. My fear of flying on that little plane from going to the place that brought me the most Joy. And I finally did it. Here's the crazy thing. Here's the crazy thing, my fear of flying on that little plane had said my own daughter, her whole life. And she was afraid to fly to and have no reason other than I had instilled that fear in her.
Don't do that. Don't do that. So let me tell you what I did. I got on that plane. Shaking. When I called, when I called an order, the plane funny story. The guy symbol. What kind of plane would you? Like? I said, I want one. No, that's not a G5 sweetie. That's called. I don't know. A milk run. And the guy said I was telling him, I want to fly a plane that can land on the water. Or land and you said okay. So you want to land on the water? So no sir. I do not want to land on the
water. Absolutely not what I want to do is only land on the water cases of problem, Landing. I definitely want to land on land. So, could you give me both? He said, they are hard Flames to get theater Land on water or they land in the ground. I said, will you find that playing Annie brought in and it's a double-decker. It lands on water or land on the ground and I got on that plane. And here's the thing. It was a 22 minutes lights. What felt like the longest It felt like I was flying it elect oast. But when I got there.
And I touch down. I felt the most incredible sense of achievement. The most incredible sense of achievement. I told David and Stacy and filth as soon as I landed. They had no idea what I was talking about. I'm here. I'm done. Okay, we're going to see you soon, and then I called my child. I can Amber. You won't believe it. I went on the milk run playing. It was amazing. I felt so comfortable with so smooth. I can feel like a touch the water, but I wasn't You're going to love it. The kids are going to live in the kids a little crazy to take
videos. It's the best plan I've ever been on. She said really, when should we try? When should we try mom? After all those years of me, making her fearful, all she needed to hear from me, is that I did it. And then I made it and it wasn't so scary. After all it was all made up in my mind and I fed everybody the same dinner every night of fear. Stop doing that. Must pay attention to when we're doing that to each other. Cuz we do you say time is sorta, can't be, but we can't negotiate with this. We can't negotiate with it.
One day, we're going to wake up and there's going to be no more time. Remember this guy, the whole world shifted off the strength of one human being. Your life is an extraordinary opportunity. Never forget that. Never forget that. It's being here. Now, that's important. There's no past and there's no future. Time is a very misleading thing is, and if we can gain experience from it, but we can't relive it. We can hope for the future, but we don't really know if one exists. So that's why I want you to do something with the here. And now you see, as a young child.
I learned how valuable time was at a very young age. At a very young age, you see? We're at home with my mother. My brothers, Mark, and Steve. And I know they will remember this moment because we rarely watch this video because of it. You see where you were at home with my mother and Marc and Steve, and I, we were watching a speech on the ESPYs. Do you know what the SV Zara ESPN channel sports fans in here, ESPN channel and they have an award show, right? Batman award show
and they were giving away the Arthur Ashe courage award. It was being given to a guy. Who was the coach of North Carolina? State's called Jimmy, Valvano, Jimmy V? Any rate they were giving Jimmy these award and he was at the end of his battle with me, but cancer, he was dying. And any moment of cancer, he was going to die. He was 47 years old. And we watched that video. And we were sobbing. My mother took, it especially hard. Let me play it for you real quick. I don't know how much I have left
and I have some things that I would like to say. Hopefully, at the end. I'll have something that will be important to two other people, too, but I can't help it now and I'm fighting cancer. Everybody knows that if people ask me all the time about how you you go through your life and how is your day and nothing is changed for. Me, is Dick said, I'm very emotional passionate, man. I can't help. But that's being the son of Rocco and Angelina Valvano. That's it, comes with the territory. Right? We hug. We kiss, we love. And when people say to me, how do you get through life with or each
State's the same thing to me? There are three things we all should do. Every day. We do this every day of our life. You're going that. What a wonderful. Number one is laugh. You should laugh. Everyday number to is fake. You should spend some time and thought and number three is, you should have your emotions. Moved to Tears. Could Be happiness. Would you ever think about if you laugh, you think, and you cry? That's a full day. That's a heck of a day. You do that 7 days a week. I have something special. And it's screen is flashing up there. 30 seconds. Like I care
about that screen right now, huh? I got, I got I got tumors all over my body. I'm worried about some guy in the back going 32nd, but she got a laugh. Don't give up. Don't ever give up. And that's what I'm going to try to do every minute that I have left. I will thank God for the day and the moment I have and if you see me smile, and maybe give you a hug cuz that's important to me, too. Steve Martin and Steve are emotional cuz I didn't tell him I was going to do this. It's a very tough video for us them explaining why as we've
watched that video. Again, we found out. Two weeks later. Jimmy V died. He lost his battle with cancer. I hate cancer. I hate cancer and we took it really hard. Pizza, incredible, isn't he? And so I remember looking over at my mother and she was sobbing. I thought, wow, she's really taking this one hard cuz you know, his kids were immature and you're not like, okay, Mom, relaxes, you know, you didn't really know him. You know what I'm saying? But I'm sure that
she had a bigger connection because of their age, right? She was 42. He was 47. And you think to yourself like, how do you lose somebody so young? And she said, you know what, Lauren we got to do more with our life more. If we got to laugh more. Steve, we got to move ourselves move or something tears. The motion everyday. We got to do more and she said, I want to do more. The mom. You should you just stop taking care of us all the time and do more for yourself. Jimmy, Valvano died on April, 28th.
1993, and my mother died the next day. April 29th, 1993, true story, and I understood the value of time at a very young age and Mark and Steve did too. And I got to tell you every day, since then, I swore to myself, I would do something. I would laugh more. I would live more, I would think more and I would be moved to tears every single day, every single day. I want you to do that. I want you to do that for you. You see if I'm scaring all my weaknesses with you today.
I'm opening up everything I ever tell you the true story. It's cuz the only way I know how to tell you. Cuz we're all going to go through pain. We're all going to go through pain. But let's make it work for us. Let's turn it into Power. Let's turn it around and help people. Let's stop tripping Rippling our children, like digested Rippling or children. Slept raised to believe that they can be and it's team anything they want. A b, c, d. 150, people ever hear this young
team? Carlton over here. All these young Olivia leave Look at that little lip and Olivia lip. Like she did. David and Stacy, you lived in Colton and McKayla up like you did, we have to bring our children up. We have to raise them up with the lift them up and take away their fear. I hope my kids are better than me all the time. I want them better than me and she is And she has, you see the fears. We don't face become our limits. They become our limits, the whole future, lies, and uncertainty live immediately.
I don't mean wait till tomorrow. I mean start today. You see, your life needs to be breaking down your own limits and outgrowing yourself. You are not in competition with anyone else plan to outdo your past. Not other people. Forget other people. Okay, I'm going to ask you guys a question and a first, you're going to say no, and then I want you to think about it because answer zombie. Yes. For everybody. It's true. How many of you have had something in your life. How many of you have something in your life
today? That was once a dream or a goal. Maybe it was a baby. Maybe it was a new job. Maybe was a husband or wife a promotion, raise your hand a business. A skill set is a relationship and income level. It could be anything but you didn't think it was possible. But you would teach it. Didn't you would you agree that almost? Everybody has experienced something like that, right? Yes. Okay, so I want you to think about that moment. You see you thought it was impossible. But it wasn't. I bet you
got excited, you researched it, you visualized it. You vocalized it. You ask a lot of questions and you couldn't stop thinking about it till you got it. How many of you relate to that? How many of you relate to that? So you don't need me or anyone telling you how to make something happen. Chances are you've already done it? So just remember this, the first step to creating anything in your life is focus. Is focus. And unfortunately, in the world that we live in today, that's dominated by social media and these screens. And I'm guilty to these screens.
These phones. He's iPads computers. Have fragmented most of the time. and if controlled our life, And because of it, we lose our concentration. But because we live in a world of social media, because let me remind you about something about social media. Nobody ever post their down days. They only post was pretty behind the scenes. And because of these screens, our focus is scattered and often times were losing power. We're losing our power, but when we concentrate our focus and deeply
commit, something starts to happen. The Impossible becomes possible. And I want you to think about how life was for just one moment without the screen. Without the phone. I'm guilty too. Just so you know, over the last week I have attempted to do something different. Andrew will tell you and I've been off my phone or screen from less than 4 hours a day. It has been the most challenging time of my life. I'm going to be honest. But here's the thing. When you think you're bored, you're actually not. It just takes time to adjust and I'm going to talk about that in a minute. You see? It doesn't
matter who you are, what you did in the past. The only thing that matters is who you want to become. Who do you want to become whatever pink people think about you is none of your business. Whatever people think about you is none of your business. Do not let it get to you. Who cares? Your friends don't want the same thing that you want. Why would you care? Do the same what I'm saying? Transformation. Unfortunately, will not come from just being here this weekend. However, it is a good start. It's a very good start but transformation
doesn't come here from being here, this weekend. It comes from the renewing of your mind. The renovating of your mind, anybody hear of a renovated home. A room that way. I know you do this, write a rule in my kitchen and bathroom. You have to pull some tiles off the floor at the rip up the floor. You can pull some Nails out. Sometimes you have to take off a room. Take out a tub. Take out a bathtub. I mean, a shower, a toilet. It take time. You don't just start taking it out and we got the genie one and you wave it and all the sudden you have a gorgeous bathroom
know that happen. Sure. Wish we had that button. Don't hit the thing. You don't have it. It takes time and Reinventing yourself will take time. It will take time. Nothing happened. Instantly. The other problem with social media is that we all have this expectation of instant gratification. We expecting to happen instantaneously and folks, real life doesn't work. That way. This is real life and it's okay to use her phone and it's okay to use her iPad and it's okay to use your computer, but stop letting it dictate your life. Stop letting you dictate
your life. Now. How are we going to work our week? That's why I'm going to talk to you about it today fast. Now, you've heard my story before I write my story. We were poor. We had no money. He was mad in love with me. I can say, I'll take this shit, is not here right now. Schizophrenic there. Anyway, my point is this He's not here right now. He's in the back, listening. He was so mad in love with me. You guys wouldn't believe me. I was just kidding. I was mad in. Love
with him, not to figure out why? You didn't love me like that sometime. It took him some time. And our big date was on Wednesdays Wednesdays at 1 at Wendy's, cuz we didn't have any money to eat anywhere else, please. This Taco Super Bowl, all you can eat for 99 and we went in on the tacos. We know what it's like to suffer. We know what it's like not to be able to make ends meet. We know what it's like, when the bill collectors are calling at the end of the day. But you can't give up. You can never give up.
Just like Jimmy. V said you cannot ever give up. That is so important for you to understand. You say your past failures will not predict your future. Sometimes you're going to have to go broke. You're going to lose the person you thought you loved and watch your friends turn into foes in order to get where you're going. In order to get where you're going, your friends may turn the photos. You see elevation requires separation. Elevation required separation. That'll catch you on the way home.
It's big. It's big guys. You see getting your stuff together, require such a level of honesty that we try to avoid it. Why? Because there's nothing easy about realizing that you're the one who's been holding yourself back. You're the one that's been holding yourself back, aren't you? I see you not in with me and I feel you. You're the one who's been holding yourself back, but it's okay. You're going to be okay. You can do this. We can do this. You see sometimes
the fear won't go away, and you're going to have to do it afraid, but that's okay. Cuz we're going to hold your hand. That's a great thing about this atmosphere. This atmosphere. This atmosphere is like, painting. I was talking to Andrew about this yesterday. We are not just a business platforms. We are life platform. We are a life platform. Anything you want anything. You desire can be achieved within this platform, but you may be afraid and some of you. How many of you honestly would say you
haven't done? All you wanted to do? Cuz you're a little frayed, raise your hand and love you. I'm with you. I'm going to help you. I'm going to do it together. I'm going to hold your hand. We're going to hold your hand and we going to do it together. If we Trinity that's part of the thinking, if you don't have anyone to help you, if your sponsor is not here anymore, you write me alone and stop, and we're going to help you. We're going to help you. We don't want you to be alone and think that Mark is working as a big Initiative for him right now. He wants to make sure that everybody's connected
to somebody and get the help that they want. Of course, those of you with a trial run, are living it, right. It's a big part of the process. You have to keep learning and inventing. You have to keep your eye on the target. You have to embrace the low points if you want a real competitor to bed. If you want a real competitor, then I want you to embrace the low points because hidden in the dark times. Is the opportunity for growth and transformation? And you got to look, you got to pay attention. You got a search for it and you let her know you're not
alone. You may be in business for yourself, but you're not by yourself. It doesn't matter what you know in this very moment. All that matters is that you care and you do and you do care cuz you're here. Every single one of you care. You wouldn't be here. You understand that? So I don't care what you know, if you're just here we're going to get there. We're going to do this together, aren't we? We're going to do this together. You feeling me and my connecting with you. You got me. Are you with me over there? Yep, are you with me?
You say? Remember what you talked about up here? Have to also come from here. Whatever you talk about up here, have to come from here. I love you, too. Love you, too. I love you. Listen. Both your head and your heart have to align. Remember who you are? Stop wanting to be someone else you can do anything you want. You see we may not be superheroes. But we have superpowers. We have super powers. Do you know what your superpower is? I know what mine is a woman. I'm a woman.
And I know what yours is. You still have air in your lungs? You're still breathing and while you're still breathing, you can do something with it. If you're still breathing and you're still living your best days are still ahead of you. You understand that you kill me on that. I want to make sure you guys awake back there. I got. Are you by the right back at ya? You say? For all my women out there, by the way, I know a wise girl has her limits, but a smart girl knows. She has none. A smart girl
knows, she has none. You're all smart. Beautiful women. You see, most want to just be in the results. You just want to be in the results. You wanted to happen for you. You want to be in the results right now and not the process. And ask Luis was so kind of demonstrate this morning that walking on stage, which is the result. Is easy, isn't it? Louis? But what it takes to get on this stage, is the work, that's the process, all the hard work of everything. You see when Mark Ashley present. So amazing, Steve, Ashley presents to amazing,
Andrew Weissman, our whole team. Everything that you see happened on here is easy cuz it's just the results. It's what happens before we get here. That's the process. That's the hard work. I need you to put a no way to escape. If both there is no way to escape the process, is it? It is there Edwin? No way to escape. If you want to get the result, you got to put in the work. You see? That's like me saying, It's been six months since I joined the gym. It's been six months since I joined the gym and I've had absolutely zero
progress. No progress, David since I joined the gym. I'm going to go there in person tomorrow and talk to them about it. You say you can't just join the gym. You got to go to the gym. And you can't just go to the gym, right? James. You got to put the work in like Mark said at the gym. And let me tell you something. When we get to the pie chart in a minute. I'm going to ask you about one of my goals was to lose weight, to work out to be healthier. And I struggle with that hard work because I
am going to talk about this later. Always make excuses to take care of myself first, so I can make sure everybody's okay Jr.'s. Okay, takes a lot of work, a lot of work. I'm going to tell you that right now. Okay. Alot of Huntington Park. Yeah. It's a lot of work. Okay, that's why. I told him take a nap backstage. A lot of work. My daughter. I have three grandchildren. Have a lot of people who depend on me out of company. That depends on me. I always put myself last, that's just who we are as women generally, right? We all have a tendency to do that. But in order for me to succeed at working
out everyday, I had to find somebody who would push me. And I found the best trainer Edwin. You're there right? Light wave your hand everybody. And Edwin is part of the process, but I needed another part of the process. My partner Andrew. So is always there. He's always there. And the reason I'm going to win, if you listen to me carefully, you see them do the trial, run messing up here with Trinity and colon and all those people were talking about it. What was the one key things they all do? They partner up, don't they? They partner up rights on rights
when you partner up right Elizabeth. I need you to partner up. I needed a partner up with somebody who would hold me accountable. Somebody who would hold me accountable. Why? Cuz number one. Let's face it. If I didn't show up for the day. I would just lose the money. Okay, for some people that hurts a lot from me and didn't hurt as much. However, I need somebody to do it with me. I need somebody motivate me. Somebody to push me somebody to hold me. Accountable somebody to hold my hand and said, you can do this. So, between Edwin and an Andrew, we did that every day. Now. I'm not sure
what happened there, but that video. Everyday. There. Steve And here's the crazy thing. Here's the crazy thing, guys. You don't lose weight or get fit. I joining the gym. You actually do have to put in the work. I put in the work. I lost 12 lb in 4 weeks. I lost 12 lb in 4 weeks. I worked out so hard every day. Did I not all my friends were there to witness that I came in? I was drenched in my tire shaking his head cuz we made it work out with that one the other day. He said, this guy is not normal and he's not when I first started working out
with him. We do crazy things. Like, that's he's getting thing. I do, you have no idea. If you do 3 minutes, like 30 minutes of cardio. He makes me do it for an hour. Okay. Now, wait, if I say I can't do that with Edwin, you know, he wants me to do a bet. Mark, does it do with him is impossible, right? He's a hard as you've ever had. You have to go on this balance ball was one foot with your feet foot in a sling. After you let do like 20 squats like this, you feel like you're going to fall over? And I said, when I can't do this, I can't break my leg before convention. He said, I
understand you 20. I understand do 20. And Mark, Mark called me the other day. He said, Maria and he had worked out with Edwin when they got to Miami said, when you are joking, you got the hardest rendered, you could find, how are you doing this? Every single day? I was doing it every day. Seven days a week. Armada was no days off, no days off. Because in order to get where I wanted to go. I could not take one day off, what our solid and it worked. I lost 12 lb. But Mark how many said this guy?
I was working out with Edwin and markets, fun, like behind the scenes, when you get a chance to hang out with Mark Mark and be really fun, light loose, and he's in the gym and it's like his muscles, things like that. And when smiling cuz he knows it'll be like, looking in the mirror, like the 5th and he's like, yeah, Edwin, you know, Lauren told me a lot about you. She likes to joke around with you and stuff in class, Mark was trying to catch his breath in between sets. He said, you know what? I mean. I'm trying to listen up man. You want to hear about this joke? I got for you is like
a 20. No, no 20 and one doesn't talk much. He says a couple things. No + 20. No and sweaty. Those words changed my life. Thank you Edwin. Here's the thing. You don't get bit by joining the gym you get fit by going right. Tom and the same is true for our work and our business. You must learn. You must practice. You must learn. You must practice. You must learn. You must practice. You must learn. You must practice, you have to show up. You must show up. You cannot just join the company.
You have to show up. You cannot just go in the company. You must show up. You see, this atmosphere that I've talked to you about. This atmosphere is huge. It's a sanctuary. It provides protection. I always say, the atmosphere that we've created. I draw white circle protection Jer, and I always say that around our Market, America Family, a white circle protection around us. Why this is our atmosphere. This is our air, and as long as we're breathing it together, we're going to support each other and hold each. Others hands. No one will tell no one what
fell? We're going to focus on the one step in front of us. We're going to focus on the one step in front of us. Right? Mauricio. We're going to focus on the one step in front of us and not the entire staircase. Not the entire staircase. See this year is yours. It's up to you to decide what you want to do with it. You got to do something or nothing will happen. It will not be easy. Our mind. Is used to doing the same thing all the time. But we have to change our mindset. We have to change ourselves. This is the year to
re-invent yourself and little progress. Will go a long way as long as you do it each and every day. When you believe it or not, and what you want, and what you want to do and everything is in alignment. Meaning you're wise. Your wants and your what? You have a commitment to consistency. It will happen. Don't fight with life, being part of it. That's what I want you to do. See the only day. You're guaranteed is yesterday and right now. Nobody knew that day that my mother would die. The very next day. She talked about all the things she wanted to do with her life. We
don't know if there's a future, but we do know that there's an app. Don't mistake movement for achievement. Do not mistake movement for Cheesman. That's just being busy. Don't be phased out by that. You see, you come home sometimes and I understand you're tired and you plopped down in the chair and you're like, this is too much. I've been going going gone all day. I'm exhausted. Somebody get me. A drink. Where is my wife? Bringing me my dinner? So I'm exhausted. I've
been going going going going gone. Doing what? Doing what? What are you doing? Are you focusing on the minors? Are you focusing on the miners in your life instead of the majors? Are you focusing on the minors instead of the majors? Do you understand the difference? How do I get your brain to focus? Concentration is power concentration is power. We used to focus a lot more before all the screens. So, here's the thing. The one thing I want you to do this year and when you get home
in order to succeed at work. This business is you got to create a space for yourself. I don't care where that spaces. I don't care if it's at your kitchen table. I don't care if it's in your closet on the floor. I don't care. If you don't have a home office. I don't care if you put a desk in your garage and put a telephone out there. I want you to find a space where you can focus. And here's why. I want you to practice a few things. You cannot focus with that computer, that iPad and that phone in your hand constantly.
Let me tell you how, I know that cuz we're all abusive of it. We go home. We play with our children. Mom. Watch a movie with me. Mimi. Watch a movie with me. Mimi, play a game with me. Can you taking calls on your phone and your texting people on your phone and you're answering emails on your phone and in between you're looking at Instagram and Facebook? And you're not really spending time with your kids. Are you? You're not really spending time with your kids because we're over stimulated by these devices. We're
over stimulated them without them. We think we're bored. But actually our mind expands our mind gets bigger and I read this case study on a CEO of a Fortune 500 company. He was 30 years in and being a 4 billion dollar company or forty billion our company huge company. Big c. E o. But in 30 years, the last 10 years, they hadn't grown. And he was confused about why that happened. And he said, you know what, there's something wrong and something sparked him to realize that he stopped thinking. He stopped
thinking because he was over stimulated by the screens. And so, all of the stinking have been replaced with emails. Phone calls. Answering back people, social media, Facebook, Instagram. Following a fake life of somebody else. And he stopped thinking and so he tried for 30 days to cut back on his devices for hours a day. And I as I listen to this, I told you I've now been doing this since last Friday and will tell you. And the first week, he wanted to go crazy. He was miserable. He thought he was in a deep depression. He ate more. He was
bored. He didn't know what to do with himself. but by the second week, He realized he had more time to think. By the second week, he began to be creative again. By the third week did come up with brilliant ideas. Just like he had when he started his company 30 years before. Because he gave himself concentration, which is power again, the power to think again and put the device down. And put the device down. And here's the thing. I don't want you to try to work in the shower. Cuz we all do that,
don't we? We get in the shower? Cuz it's our only time alone. And I know that Mark Ashley probably takes a long shower because he's in the shower, trying to figure out what he's got to do for the day, and try to put it in perspective and he's worrying about the email that he has to answer and the work that he has to do. And I got to tell you, that's no way to enjoy the process. That's no way to enjoy the ride. It's true. So here's what I want you to do. I want you to stop getting on your phone, when you get in your car, on the way to your work, working for somebody else right now, so you
can fire your boss, so you can fire your boss cuz we're going to make sure you fire your boss. But while you're in the car, on the way to work, put your phone down and enjoy the ride. And enjoy the ride. And look at the scenery around you and see what you've been missing. See what you've been missing? You agree were missing out. You see that get off your phone over there. Just kidding. You've been missing out. You can't be with the kids and be with your kids. If you're on your phone.
So when it's time to work have a relationship, a conversation with your family. And so, you know what, when I go over here in my little corner, I'm going to do my work. And they're going to respect that because when you're with them, you going to be with them. Does that make sense to you? Does that make sense to you? And we don't do that right there. That we don't do that. We don't find time. We're trying to be super woman or Superman. We are not superheroes. We're trying to do and do and do and do and do and guess what? We're not human doing. We're human beings.
We can't be everything to everyone. So go in that little corner and find your space. And when you go there Jackie you're going to tell them. This is my space and when I'm here, this is where I'm going to work. And when I come out of this FaceTime you, when I come out of this place and imma take the ride with you, on the way into town. I'm not going to be on my phone cuz I'm going to enjoy the scenery, but I've never seen the flowers that color before cuz you never got to look up. I want you to enjoy the ride, folks. I want you to be present in the present. Stop
over committing yourself to other people, when you don't want to do things with them. Who here has that problem. You said yes, to everybody calls you, so we can descend it. I have it to Ashley Jr. Has it. I don't have it so much. I'm pretty good at telling people know, Jr.'s really good. He'll say like, yeah, that sounds interesting. I'll have Andrew give you a call, and he passed it on the address and I always tell my my dear, when you pass it on to Andrews, like you say, yes, so, here's the better thing to do. Stop saying yes to everything that you don't want to do and start saying no I
can't do this, but if something changes I'll call you. If something changes, I'll call you right that down this year in 2020. I'm going to start to say no to others more often. Unless we're building together. Unless we're building together. So you know what? No, thank you. I wish I could have something changes. I'll give you a call. It's not so hard as it not so hard. And let me tell you what else you need to do. Let me tell you, what else you need to do in 2020. You need to put
90% of your time into your major. 90% of the time. You're welcome. 90% of the time. It's your major and 10% of your time into your minor. 10% of the time. It's your Miner. You can grow the business a minor and major things but you're getting confused. You see when we say to make the names list of 100 people, you're taking major time to do that. When really it should only take minor time. It should only take minor time. The major time should be spent in front of your possibilities. In order to grow
your business. The major time needs to be spent in front of your possibilities, in order to grow your business. Minor time happens when you create a list of those hundred people that you're going to talk to you about the business, don't major and minor. If you take major time and minor things are always going to be behind the curve. You're always going to be behind the curve. Always know what you want to achieve. Without a why you'll never find your house. Without a why you'll never find your house without a destination Union. You'll never end up very far without measuring you'll, waste
resources without a purpose. You have meaningless work. Your limitations are in your head and not in the hand. You've been dealt. No, they're not in the hand. You've been dealt. You may not always be able to accomplish your goals. But if you don't aim for something, you'll hit nothing. You can do this. I know you can you can do this. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet. Come, we only have today. We only have today and you got to start living your life like every moment matters
because guess what it does. It does. To see, perhaps power is letting go of the grip. Perhaps power is letting go of the grip of the past and standing empty-handed facing your future. Empty hand is facing your future and ready. That's power. You feel me? If you're brave enough to let go of your past and face your future. You're free to live your present. You see the future ain't what it used to be. The future ain't what it used to be and those who only look to the Past are certain to miss the future.
You see. That's right. They're starting to miss the future. Only when we're no longer. Do we begin to live? Don't worry about what anyone else is going to do. Only worry about what you're going to do. People will say, all they laugh at me because I'm Different. Why am I doing this? And I laugh at them because you know what? They're the same. They're all the same. They're all the same and when somebody comes up to me and says, Lauren, you James, you changed. I look at them dead in the eye and I say, it's your turn.
It's your turn. You're damn right? I change. It's your turn. Don't you? Let anybody tell you who you're supposed to be you stand up for yourself. This struggle, you are in today is the developing strengths. You will need for tomorrow. The struggle you're in today is the strength, you're going to need tomorrow. Folks. It's part of the process. There's no way to escape its. If you're facing in the right direction, do not look right or left. Just keep going forward. Keep going forward. In your
atmosphere must compliment your commitment. Your Atmosphere must compliment your commitment. You are here this weekend. You are beginning 2020 with the transformation of your like, you cannot leave here without getting a ticket for August. You cannot leave here without getting a ticket for your local event. You cannot leave here without getting the tickets to the August conventions. If you do, you're not committed. And I'm not trying to tell you that to go buy tickets. You must see the future. You must say this is
where I'm going to see. Self-discipline begins with a Mastery of thoughts of you. Don't control what you think. You cannot control what you do. You cannot control what you do. If you cannot control, what you think. You cannot control what you do. The reason why we have these a message to control that atmosphere. I asked you last year. What was more important? Someone's attitude. Could you with, could you change? Someone's attitude? What was more important attitude or a spear? And we got it, didn't way. Lot of people picked up on the whole atmosphere thing and it started to spread and now
it's contagious and we're contagious. And we're using that the game people cuz we can't change people's attitude, but we can put them in the right atmosphere and that helps them change their attitude, doesn't it? And that's why you stay within the atmosphere. That's why I never expected my circle. Outside the atmosphere. You will always find me right here with you. You will always find Mark right here with you. You will always find this corporate team right here with you. This atmosphere is our air is the air we breathe
together. It's the space. We control together. You cannot infiltrate our Circle. You're not allowed in strangers out there. You can only come in. If you want to breathe this air, the air of an entrepreneur. The air of success. Somebody's going to do it here. Who's going to do it. The people are going to save. I'm going to do it. Can't be a part of anything. We do. If you want to come in here, you're going to breathe the air of successful, entrepreneur of people holding hands people. Holding hands fighting for each other. Believing in each other believe that we
can do it together. Nobody will be left alone. Nobody will be left alone. Nobody will be left alone. I love that you can stand as many times as you want, just so you guys know, I still have 25 more minutes. I'm looking for people to build with me to dream with me. How many of you were looking to pee for people to build with you to dream with you? What's the best way to get them by bringing them into the atmosphere, right? David? Why did you have to do is bring them in this atmosphere? Oh you
have to do is bring them in the atmosphere. You have to say anymore. If you don't know what to say, bring them here. If you don't know what to say, bring them here, right? Jackie, if you don't know what to say, Tom. What do you do? That's right. You bring him here. That's why I don't want you to leave without your ticket. That's why I don't want you to go home. I got an extra one for something. I want you to bring them here. I don't want you to stress it. You see, people don't make it because they have conflicts and their wants and wise They have conflicts with their wants
and wise. You see what they say. There is one is different than their wife and when they're not aligned, it doesn't work. They must work. If not full-time and part-time as what you do with your time. You understand. You have to remember who you're speaking to in life. I have to jump way ahead cuz I'm way behind and we're never going to get there. So I'm going to jump us way ahead. I love you. Thank you for that. You're right on time. I'm at, let me jump ahead because I don't want to mess anybody ever, make anybody mad back there, by the way, where the start of a new year.
And I know many people write down their goals for the new year with their goals and dreams are what they plan to do. I stop doing that. I started writing down the things I'm going to stop doing. I start writing down the things I'm going to stop doing because my January 2nd, most people forget what they wanted to start. By January 2nd, tell them to attend. Many of you started out with a goal and you forgot it was. Okay, I did too. So I started to write down the things I'm going to stop so I can make room for the things. I want to start. You understand. I'm
making rooms in 2020. I'm moving in a 2020 with 20/20 vision. Yes, we are baby. We're moving in the twenty20 with 2020 Vision. You cannot be what you don't see. You cannot be what you don't see. You will only associate yourself with people who are build and honor your boundaries. Hold you accountable and respect your no. Otherwise eliminate them. You see all these people up here. I don't have time to go through with it. These are the types of toxic people. I named them. They reminded me
of people. I knew I named them all. Adrian Mike, Susie talk. Ashley to me. Once the face, complement of the person who gives you fake compliments an energy drainer. They make you feel tense. They put you down for no reason. They can't be happy for others. Good fortune or Susie, the pessimist, she talks down, by the way, there's any fuses in here. I'm not offense to you. As soon as I knew. As soon as he was a pessimist. She talks down. You should make some other makes herself feel better, but only cares about themselves, but criticizer, somebody will never support anything you doing.
Always find criticism. And everything you do is a manipulator someone who tries to control everything for 10 to like you and other people or the poor for for me, the poor victim. Blames everyone for this, their misfortunes talks mostly about their excuses for family. If you know, somebody like that. The reason why this chart is up here and I don't normally put my presentation to the back office. We're going to put some of these back there. I want to be able to pull from this and I want you to put this by your your office. So you can remind
yourself with a big ass that. These people are not allowed into your atmosphere. They're not allowed into your atmosphere, not allowed into your Air. The problem is, is that a lot of you believe? And I don't mean you cuz you're here. A lot of people believe the wrong thing. Maybe the wrong people are influencing your thinking, maybe the wrong people are influencing your thinking. You need to check your circle. Someone say check your circle. If I cut you off, chances, are you gave me the scissors? You gave
me the scissors. Stay With Me. Stay with me. Check your circle. Someone say check your circle. We're going to do that. Don't you love a person that does this? Take my advice? I'm not using it. another EX, The person who tells you, what you should do, but don't follow their own rules. Sorry. I don't want your advice. I don't want it. You see everyone can tell you that there's a risk in this business, but an entrepreneur will see the reward. I want you to see the reward with me and you see
it. Do you see the reward? Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution. If you have a problem with me, I tell people. If you have a problem with me, I tell people call me. If you don't know my number, that means you don't know me. Well enough to call me. And guess what? They got. Your number do that. They ain't got your number. Stacey, you stay away from those people either. I grow with you, or I'm going to outgrow you, but I am not standing still for any I refuse to stand still for anyone. And
guess what? It's okay to unfollow friends in real life. It's okay to unfollow friends in real life. I am following people all the time. I check out. And by the way, when I check out, everybody knows I check right out. I put a block, you know, you can take your phone numbers and you can block people's numbers. I blocked them. Why? Because I don't want the negativity in my life. Everybody is friends with me knows that I keep such a tight circle around me. I only want friends who will push me, who Elevate me? Who will lift me up? Bring us up. Right? We don't want anybody
else around us. We need people supporting us. There's too much hate in this world. I don't like it. I refuse to be apartment. Stay in the atmosphere with me. Stay here with me. Stay here with me. Stay here with me. Stay in this atmosphere with me. Stay with me. Don't leave me you. Stay right. Here. You stay. Right here. You. Stay right here. You stay right here. I learn. I love you. I see right there till I'm holding one day. One day or day one. It's your decision. I learn to stop fighting
battles with people who are at war with themselves. Stop going. I'm fighting battles with people who are at war with themselves. You'll never win. You're wasting your time. You're one choice away from the true person. You were meant to become. I hope this week and you made the choice to go home and do something with it. I know you didn't come here just to get riled up. You came here because you want transformation. Listen. When things don't happen, so you set out to happen.
What happened life? It's not your fault. It is your fault, though. If you don't pick yourself back up and keep going. It is your responsibility to get back up and keep on going. You see, there are ups and downs in life and we have to remember to honor and commit to our commitments. And you know why we're sometimes afraid, because we know the only person that we ever break commitments on is ourselves just show up for the party. You don't want to go to you show up for the event that you could care less about. But
when it comes to hitting 2020 with 2020 Vision, you cancel the commitment on yourself first, and that's not what I want to do. Because I explained to you. Time to sort. And I don't want you to learn the lesson that I had to learn by losing my mother at the age of 42. I want you to keep going. I don't want you to quit. I want you to quit. I'm moving forward fast. I got to keep going to figure out where I'm going to get to. Hold on. Let me move ahead. Cuz I'm all over the place right
now. I told you. I love you, too. And I love you, too. I want to let you guys know something. I really believe. And maybe some of you agree that there's been a shift. In the perception of people. For 2020, I really believe. That everyone can do the business but not everybody will. There's an awareness though since 2020. Now, more than ever. The people are actually starting to change. They realize they need a new way. They're looking for a better way. They know they can't rely on what they're used to relying on to actually want more. They want a life. Don't you feel that change a
little bit the ship? It's kind of crazy, but it's true. She's either tired of fighting in traffic, the tired of going nowhere, the tired of being on the hamster wheel and they're starting to figure out what's the meaning of my life. Is the meaning of our life, only for a daily life? Is the meaning of our life, only for a daily life? When I say daily life, I mean to get up, go to work. Feed the kids get in the car fight traffic, go home. Feed the kids be the hubby.
Go to bed, watching TV, show, whatever it is. If that's the daily life, is that what our life is supposed to be made of just, or is it opposed to me know? That's right. Is it supposed to be a meaningful life? We're at the Tipping Point. I can feel it. We're at the Tipping Point before starting to feel it with us. You see, I believe this business is more than a business platform ice. I told you, I believe it's a life platform. I believe it's a life platform that allows you and allows you to create
and design our life the way we want to live it. You've witnessed it all weekend from all walks of life. You see them and you want to be like them and you want to act like James and Marion and being like Elizabeth, but you never saw their struggles to get here. The only witness their strength. Everybody has weaknesses. Everybody has strengths and we're going to work with them, aren't we? I'm probably never going to get to the work. Your weakness segments. Are we having fun? Are you learning something? Are you learning something? Listen.
I know I have to I can always just save it for next time, right? You got to have a wife Oaks. You got to have a, why you got to know what, your, why is you see when I started out in this business with Mark and Steven Jr. I was 18 years old. and I'm not embarrassed to tell you, I wasn't sure what my, why was I was a little confused and Jerry looked at me in front of Mark, and Steve. And he said, what's your why Lauren? And at the time I wanted a Louis Vuitton bag really
bad. I really wanted this Louis Vuitton bag really, really bad. And I didn't have the extra money to buy it and it goes back in and makes me laugh because it was actually my first motivator, but here's the thing. Wanting that Louis Vuitton bag wasn't the reason I kept going. That Louis Vuitton bag wasn't going to keep me fighting for my dreams. Did it move me? It didn't pick me up when I was feeling down. But I did get the purse though. I did get the purse though. Thank you to Market America. You see, once I realized that it was deeper than a purse. It's really changed my life.
You see how I realized. I needed Market America. I needed the friends. I need the unity. I needed to feel amazing community of people. I needed that. It was the lights that actually changed my life. And yes, the money is great. Isn't it David? Isn't it? Pay? Stacy and Colton? And if you like, the money will chat with you about that. Later. but what I'm really trying to say to you, is this Market, America Market, America can change her life for a lot more reasons than just money.
Market America can change your life. For a lot more reasons than money. Yeah. A lot more reason, some money. I'm finally. I finally got the purse and I get it. It's you, it's you. It's us, isn't it? It's us. It's both, it's all of it. It's a life platform, David. It's not a business platform. Andrew looked at me, and I asked her, I said to God, I love the life platform Lauren. You're right. And it is, that's who we are. That's who we are. So, you know what? I told you about the pipe part, last time. If you didn't do it, I don't have time to go through all this with you. Please do it for
me. You need to know what you want. Why you want it in order to get what you want. I need you to do this. I'm so glad I moved you. I'm I feel you, love you, and feel your tears. I feel all of you right now. I want you to do this bad. I want you to do it more than you want it. I want you to stop procrastinating. I want you to get where you want to be. I want to break it down for you. And I don't have to, here's the thing. I want you to set your goals. I want you to be brave. I want you to keep going, you see, where born into a society that has given
us rules, regulations policies, structure, compliance, and standard, since the time we have been born and it sucks. It sucks and I don't like it. Let me tell you something rules and regulations and procedures have held us down our whole life. Don't hold down your children. That way don't do that to them. Because when they're little, they fly. Be a fireman Daddy. Daddy, I want to be an astronaut. I want to go to the Moon. You can do anything you want, son. Mama, I want to be a teacher rate.
Mama, I want to be a doctor. You can do whatever you want. You don't have to worry about being a nurse. If you want to be a doctor, you being a doctor. You want to be a nurse to be a nurse. You can do anything you want. The problem is, were born into a society that has rules and regulations. And because of it, we start to limit people's dreaming. We start to limit people's dreams and we got to stop doing that. We got to be open to possibility. We going to start talking to people, like, we talk to our friends when when, when Colton was up there yesterday, but we never talked
about talking and seems to understand all they were saying, was, they want you to talk to people, like, you talk to your friends. We talk to your friends are telling a story, the conversation is just story. Stop not being you when your phone is strangers, be you and be brave. Everybody expect everything that happened so fast. Everybody wants to visit to take off right away. And let me tell you something. I understand you wanted to happen right now, but things take time. So does Falling in Love? Ecobee 5 days, 5 months, 5 years. You can't measure it. It
happens. When it happens. Doesn't it? Tom 5 days for you though. I get it. Here's the thing. You got to be consistent. It will happen for you. And I know I love you in. 5 days is good. That's good. Good stuff. I can have him. By the way, it does. Listen, listen to me carefully. Not everyone will join you. Doesn't matter. Not everyone will go on this crazy Journey with you and see your vision. Not everyone will go to work with you. But you don't need them. Anyway. You don't need them anyway. You don't need them. Anyway, here's the funny thing.
This was in the newspaper, the other day. It said, the top 10 things, people are afraid of Mark, in the Wall Street Journal. Number 10 was at USA will have another War. Number six was people were afraid of dying. And number one was public speaking. That means that people would rather die before they publicly freak. Go figure. Go figure. Life is too short to suffer as you think. So, you shall be. As you think. So you shall be have a mind that's open to anything but attached to nothing. Sacrifice what you are for? Who you will become practice,
practice, practice you already in pain. Let's get a reward for it. Let's get a reward for it. I don't want you to be a victim. I want you to have. The mentality of a winner. That's what I want you to do. I want you to stop being too proud and then you can figure this out on your own. I don't need any help. Yo, bro. I got a dream. I don't need your help. I'm going to make it no matter what. No, bro. You going to need some help? You going to need some help and we're here to give
it to you. We're going to give it to you every single person join someone can and help them. Okay, that's what I want you to do. That's what I want you to do. Here is the truth about your weakness. I'm going to end on time. I got 6 minutes. I know it says 5 with my glasses on, I think it's at 6:33. Anyway, here's the straight. So here's the straight truth. Your bigness biggest weakness has become your security blanket. And it's preventing you from achieving your full potential, turn it into a force of good. Here's how I want you to do that. If your
weakness is being disorganized of yourself critical or, you know what you're shy and you not do well in front of people or you have limited experience, are you? You're not skilled at delegating tasks for you lack Focus. What you write them down? Not now tonight and if you're not sure what your weaknesses are. I've already told you call the closest person to know. They'll be happy to tell you. True story, but at the same thing, on that reverse side of the paper, I want you to write down your strengths. I want you to write down your strengths. Because we're going to use our
strength to build a weakness. You say, life is a process and we're not there yet. And we never will be, you know, how many if you want mind. Shut up. I hope all of you, right, cuz that's what we do right there. You all mind stopping. What happens when you online Sharp Shop, you you buy something. And after you bite, you get an email and most often you get a tracking number of where your package is. and, When you get a tracking number. It means your package is in transit. And
that's exactly what happens. When your life is on track to make it your in transit, you're on track to get exactly where you want to be. And becoming is not about the arrival. It's about the journey is about the process. That's the hard work and while we're in transit, we stay in this atmosphere. We stay with each other. Our life will always be in transit, on the way to our arrival. But we will be better every single day because we're going to do the things that we need to do in order to change. You see your best days are not behind you.
If there's air in your lungs, your still breathing. You're still living your best days have yet to come. You understand that your best days have yet to come? It is totally possible. It is totally possible. It is totally possible to struggle while you're becoming It's totally possible to Colton and you did it. And look at you now. And look at you now baby on the way, so proud of you. So happy for you. So happy for you or deficiencies, definitely should not delay our destiny. We all
have gaps and the first step to open. I'm a jump, this whole session. I'll hit it at August with you. The first step. I want you to do and overcoming your weakness is to admit you have one. Is to admit you have a war to embarrass too proud and we feel too exposed to MIT that we have a problem. We all have weaknesses, every single one of us and we always will. And as long as we're fighting to be better and working our weakness and turning them into strength will get better. You see? My husband knows all of my weaknesses. The ones I don't
tell you. He knows everything, the ones. I don't share with you and you see, you have the potential to harm me in the worst way because of it. So he actually doesn't just have a gun. He hasn't Arsenal in a closet of weapons against me because he knows all my mistakes. He knows all my struggles. My weakness is that I don't tell you any actually may have the potential to harm me in the very worst way, but here's the thing, if that's truly, also has the ability to be in the best way to
help me at the Beltway. Listen to me. If you don't expose your weakness, don't expect anyone to encourage it either. Work your weakness. Don't deny it. I'm going to move forward on this really fast. You going to see Team. I'm going to do that. So I'm going to do it. I'm going to be on time to admit it. Ask yourself, three questions, right? These data record me. If you're not writing. These are the three things. I want you to ask yourself at the end of the day. In order to work your weakness. First one to do is to admit and
face it. The second one is to say, I want you to tap into your tablets and why you want to change that weakness and what will happen in your life when you do What will happen in your life? When you do overcome that weakness, what will it do for your life? How will your life be different? For instance? If you're afraid to show the plan and you'll learn how to show the plan, would that do for your business? I want you to ask yourself these questions and then I went to write down your strength, left them list them down, and asked several people
around you, what they perceive to be your 325 top string, cuz we're going to use those things to overcome our weakness. That's what we're going to do. The process will not be easy. It's about facing fears. And what makes you feel vulnerable and working hard to overcome which makes you feel weak. It's change and that's scary. And that scary and I want you to understand, I can't even go through any of this, but that's okay. I don't know why I got stuck for so long. I hope it doesn't matter because I hope
you got something out of this when you compare. When you compare yourself to others, you will feel like less stop doing that to yourself. Don't be care. Don't compare your becoming to someone else's becoming this race is yours and your race is different. Don't look left. Don't look right. You stay straight ahead. You with me on that. Working your weakness will. Keep you humble work in your weakness. Will keep you humble? Humble. You are always going to be in the process. Distance creates
distortion. Distance creates Distortion proximity brings perspective get closer. Get close to it. It's not as scary as you think we're far away from it wolf when I looked at that plane from my house in the Bahamas, and I look down that road where that I'm never going to make it. But as I got closer it wasn't so scary. Proximity brings perspective and you know what? It's not your fault if you have a weakness. Now, I know that's 6 minutes did just pay her that fast, it it cuz I see Zero on the clock and I'm taking 4 extra
minutes. Let me just say that there are people. There are people, I love you guys. There are people who are supposed to care for us and they contribute to our weakness. As we're children. They contribute to our weakness. Weakness was introduced to you in life by other people. We have a valid reason for having those weaknesses, but they can no longer be our excuses. No longer be our excuses. It's crippled you. I don't care if your mother taught it to your father. Taught it to you, your brother. Didn't your cousin,
your best friend? You may feel weak because of what somebody else done did you? But it is not warranted. You are not weak. I want you to stop acting strung. I want you to be strong. I want you to stop asking you see. I'm going to have to stop this in and I'll save a lot. As let me say this, I talk to this woman who was an addict, her whole life from the age of eight years old. She was drinking alcohol by the time she was 11. She was taking drugs. She named her life. We're taught our whole
life to walk around. When somebody says, how are you David? What's your answer? I'm fine. I'm good whole life, we walk around thing. I'm fine. I'm good. I'm fine. I'm good. I'm fine. I'm good, and we're not good. Don't you suppress your feelings? This girl was an alcoholic and a drug addict and from the age of eight years old. So the time she was in high school and it will tell you, he saw it too and heard the whole story. 8 years old, high school. She was a drug addict and an alcoholic. Finally. She
was tired of suppressing her feelings. Fire spot. Finally. She was tired of saying I'm fine. So she went to Edina the counselor. And she said, I'm not fine. I need help and the guidance counselor called her parents called the police, and they sent her to a mental institution. Now, listen to me, for the first time in her life. She got that mental institution. And she took that Superhero tape off that she been wearing a whole life pretending. She was fine. And for the first time in our life, people held her hand and asked her if she was okay. For the first time in her life. She
had feelings. And they matter to people that you told me, she realize that the big ugly scary world is really outside. That's where the crazy people live. And I started a breakdown and I started to realize how much people need us. We are the answer for people. We can't allow people to take their tape up and say it's okay not to be okay. We have to help people cuz nobody else will. She did really well. Through her care. She was able to talk about how she felt and people finally care. And she said when she went out to the big world after that.
That was the predictable world. The crazy world. This scary world, the place. She felt unsafe because the life she created for herself was the door control mobile world. But you know what, you know what, it proves that you have to be yourself and get to stop suppressing your feelings. Let me tell you something. It's much braver to be Clark Kent than it is Superman. It's much braver to be Clark, Kent Superman. I don't want you to act strong. I want you to be
strong. I don't want you to act strong. I want you to be strong. I want you to stop posting photos of you and your husband say, no. Look at all her life. It's so great that you haven't talked in 2 weeks. Don't say anything. Don't ask strong, be strong. Don't act strong, be strong. That's what I want you to do. Stop punishing your children. I tell you what, that means means. I want you to discipline your children. Punishing is acting. Strong punishing is acting. Strong discipline is being strong. My husband is always discipline our
daughter, but is never punished her because punishment is only acting strong. Discipline is being strong. You must know the difference. When someone is what they are, they don't have to act like they ain't. When someone is what they are when someone is what they are, they don't have to act like they hate. I am what I is. I am what I am. Be authentic. Don't try to do everything. Don't try to do everything. I'm just going to be. I'm just going to be. I'm just going to be cuz we're so caught up in what we're doing.
That we forget that we're human beings and not human doings. And I want you to think about that. I want you to stop being a human doing. That's what I want you to do. You got to go to war with your weakness. Got to be like this little girl here, but take off your cape and be yourself. You going to have to be yourself? We are born to make our Unknown Known. We have to tell the truth to actually I'm not fine. As I told you. I want you to be your self and I don't want you to be afraid. And here's the thing. I want you to stop procrastinating. Here's the thing that you do all the
time, and I'm going to move forward ahead of my funny flies. I'm skipping all this and just stand by. I went the other day and asked my brain doctor. If he can. Let me see what it looks like inside. A procrastinator is brain. Can you let me see a scan of a procrastinator? And he said, yes, and this is what it look like. A brain with a little clown inside the guy who clowns around and see there's two people inside your brain right now. One is a forward thinker and one's the other guy who's the clown around guy? Right? He's the
guy who always wants to have the easy fun route. And the other side of your brain is always telling you. I got to be forward-thinking. These are the things I got to do. What's going on. Well, the clown guy on the cares, about two things, easy and fun. The other guys are rational decision decision maker. And here's the thing. He sees the big picture, he knows what he wants. He wants to do, whatever he can to make it right. Sometimes these two people agree. On the same thing that these two people are in your brain. Don't get confused. These do people in the brain and sometimes you want the
same thing. Time to go to bed. You may agree that it's time to go to bed. Time to watch TV. Both agree. It's okay, but most often, you don't agree. And it's very confusing. Very confusing. And it's hard. It's very hard and it's what creates conflict. And here's the thing, the procrastinator, he he's he spends a lot more time in the easy and fun, Circle, the leisure activities. How do we ever get to the hard things in life? It's so much more fun. Like this guy right now. Who
fell? Just kidding. It's going to be a great day and let's go climb around and have fun. This is why I can't plan around and have fun. Cuz JR says, I have to give him my Dean's List. I got a wreck right down a hundred possibilities. We can't put it off anymore. We got to do what he says. You're right. I'm going to add it to our inbox tomorrow. That's what Clan around said. The next day comes and your brain says, I can't think of doing anything today, except making up names list for Jr. And clown around says good idea.
Let's think about him and will write them down tomorrow. Isn't that what happens and before, you know, it clown around when we have to make that list for 100 people for Jay or he's going to not work with us anymore. The clown run says, oh my god. Did you see what Prince Harry did? He decided? He didn't want to be friends anymore. What's up with Harry? What's wrong with Harry? And the Brain, says what? Let me see that. What are you talkin about? Letting me see that and guess what? My own around wins. And though it's funny. It's
true. Isn't it? Clown around takes over and you lose? Here's the thing. Folks, and their, by the way, I'll talk about the third person to your brain. Next time. I don't have time. I'm at a time when I'm going to get in big trouble. Let me just say this and I'm, I've got to thank you and nobody gave me 25 minutes, so don't blame me. I want you to do something with your life. I don't want you to work your weakness. I want you to realize that you can be and do anything you want. I want you to go in a 2020 with 2020 Vision. I want you to know that this atmosphere is here for you. I want you to
know that this atmosphere safe, this atmosphere belongs to you. If you want to do what you finally want to do, you got to get up and just do it. You got to get up and do what you got to give it all. You got. You can't be afraid of your weakness. Stop being afraid of your weakness, turn your percent, turn your fears, and your power, making your power start concentrating. Stop stop. Start being, I love you guys so much. Thank you so much.
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